Kibitzing with my girls these days has brought a lot of things to my mind especially with regard to the way men and women relate. Why is it that a man cannot handle any sort of emotion from a woman? Men automatically deem it annoying and will retreat and run for the hills Iron Maiden style if they think they might feel something, or think they might have to “talk about something?” Is it a mental retardation of the male mind whereby they flee at the first sense of “feeling?” Do men really think that if they feel something or think about someone they should fear it? Do men really think that because a mutual feeling is occurring that “marriage” will inevitably occur? I am trying to figure out what it is men are so afraid of? I have heard in recent days that one particular man, let’s call him Paul, said he read a text and found it to be “bitchy” then instinctively pulled away because he didn’t want to “deal with it”.. deal with what exactly? An explanation between two human beings to clear up or clarify his perception of the text??!!

How appalling and sad this world is if a MAN feels that it is a pain in the ass to clear the air! How sad it is for a man to interpret a simple text and discount several great experiences with said woman, to immediately focus on a couple word text and chuck it all away for fear of a “confrontation!” Really?! Are men such babies? Yes, they are, apparently. I am not a man hater, but I am not of the ilk to coddle chicken shit behavior. Aren’t we all human? Is it truly a Man/Woman difference?  Also, why does a man so readily want to throw awayall the good times with a particular woman, feelings, etc. and focuses on one little oddity to confirm his suspicion- “well, she isn’t perfect, and I don’t want to deal with it!” Who is perfect? Who wants perfect? Aren’t the flaws in people what truly bond them and what creates an understanding and empathy with one another? I know that a person who shares vulnerabilities, admits to faults, and apologizes will get so much more love and understanding from me (personally) versus someone who is always “right”, never budges, and tries to control everything, never admitting to feeling blue, sad, stressed, or not perfect.

Chicken Shit Behavior- Allowing a misunderstanding to go undiscussed, without coming to a central realization or meeting on common ground allowing karma to eventually submerse.  It weighs heavily on a conscious heart to have strife unresolved.

Also, why can a man not say what he means via text/email or in person and why does everything have to be so cryptic? Why can’t a man just text to someone, “I miss you?” Does I miss you mean, “I want to marry you?” HA HA HA!!! Why can’t a man just walk the walk, say what he means and say, Yes, I have feelings for you and I am not sure what to do with them, or how to deal with them. Why can’t they admit it and say nothing more about it  instead of running away?  Why does a man run when he feels for someone? UH OH, I might have to hurt sometimes, or talk sometimes, or not bang strange as much, or want to bang strange anymore.. OMGOD, I am FREAKING OUT— WHAT IS HAPPENING TO ME???!!! I am melting… HA HA HA… Chicken Shits! Stop the gayness, man-up and just say, “Girl, I am not dealing well with what is going on between us because I think I might be liking this too much. It ain’t that I don’t dig you, but I am sorta freaking right now and maybe need a break to process what this foreign feeling is, this LIKING THING.”  Then said girl will know what is up, stop analyzing, move on, and rock the Eff out to her own gig, and keep the possibility alive in the back of her pretty skull and just maybe the two can still hang out and see what happens.” It doesn’t mean MARRIAGE, JAIL, no more freedom, it just means WE ARE TWO PEOPLE WHO ARE  LIKING THE WAY WE FEEL AROUND EACHOTHER, LET’S NOT MAKE IT OUT TO BE MORE THAN IT IS- right now. Let’s ride this wave, but not STOP THE PRESSES.

Men- you need to communicate that you aren’t great at feeling or are fearful of feeling out of control or being tied down, but don’t dispel and punish and withdraw from the very thing you are deriving so much pleasure from just because your retarded mind goes to the 100th percent of DUMB in thinking MY FREEDOM IS GONE NOW, I BETTER SPLIT BEFORE I AM TIED DOWN! You can do both, you can hang out with a woman and still do your thang, with other women, men, whatever. JUST STOP the fearful flight. If you want to fly, give your total reason so that said woman can depart happily, peacefully and joyfully, skipping to her fucking loo. You hear me? Just talk … just hug, just be human and not a chicken shit.  Thank you.

My friend Tara likes this song, I think the lyrics are rather relevant to my post. I have truly never listened to this more than once, but in light of my post today, WHY NOT? Let’s drop this little B right in this diatribe and let everyone listen to it… thanks Tara…

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