Detox Your Life: A great self affirmation meditation is included, A self hypnosis guide, and the author is Glenn Harrold!

Change Your Life: A series of writings about spiritual acceleration, speed learning, self development, planning your future, attitude, etc.

Silva Meditations: Includes a Good Morning Meditation, Good Night Meditation, Energy Booster Meditation, Centering Exercise

Spiritual Healing: Includes Journey Into the Soul, Healing Meditation, and information on Quantum Jumping (The American Monk)

Inner Wisdom:Includes a mediation for Inner Wisdom, A self hypnosis EBook, and a connection to download a bunch of other specialized apps according to what you desire to work on personally within yourself like: Instant Sleep, Deep Relaxation, Lose Weight, Instant Flying. It also includes IPad Apps for Exercise, Super Self Confidence Hypnosis, Lose Weight Now, Sleep Well Tonight, Think Positively, etc.

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I did a couple meditations last night as I layed down  in bed ready to fall asleep. I slept very well. If you think about it, your body is always in response mode to situations forced upon you through life. Your body breaks down with stress. Stress is completely unavoidable unless you can train your response system. You cannot train your response system without first doing the work on your self.

Our body needs real rest which recharges us. Some of us never truly relax and or never settle into a total state of full body relaxation without the use of a substance. That isn’t helping the body necessarily because your liver has to filter the substance, and it is a false sense of total relaxation.

Mediation is like turning the body OFF for a little while. Checking out, if you will and sending messages to your cells, organs and mind. It is a great way to reprogram your self for peace, change and success. It isn’t boring to be peaceful, as it allows you to totally consume life and experience things in a fuller sense because you are calmer and you can process information better. You miss less, and your brain is more efficient.

It is very difficult to really meditate and sometimes it can take years to quiet your mind completely. It is a discipline that isn’t convenient. Before, I had to put a cd in my computer, down load it to Itunes, then load it on my ipod, then listen to it. Too many steps! With iPhone applications, you can download these programs quickly, take them with you, and use it through out the day! The recordings are of great quality as well!

Each time you meditate you are training your self to be better, calmer, smarter, more confident and are better equipped to handle life’s challenges and less apt to fall prey to DIS-EASE. With every year of regular daily meditation, you take one physical year off your appearance.

We all think we have no time, or things aren’t convenient or fast enough. We have become a lazy society whereby getting impatient if our Internet connection isn’t lightening fast. You need to slow your self down to really experience things and to know your self and how you are feeling in your body and mind. It isn’t asking too much of your self to put on your ear buds, and listen to a meditation as you lay in bed and let it sink into your unconscious.

It is a far way more productive way to spend time then to hang on the phone listening to someone else’s problems, which we all get stuck doing. I even can be the one talking about something too! So make the switch. Talk less and meditate more. See what your life experience becomes and how it changes you.

Commit to your self and your health, mental and physical. Become the best person you can be. Life becomes much sweeter when you pay attention to YOU more than OTHERS. Because after all it is ONLY YOU that can CREATE the LIFE you WANT and DESIRE! I don’t know about you, but I know I want to spend my time feeling relaxed, confident and laughing. Being Light and Airy, and content and not dependent on others for my self worth.

I love the fact that in every store they play pandora or sattelite, and every song reminds me of the 80s, one of my favorite era in terms of music! Why is it that all these bands are ringing so 80s? So “New Order-esque”, etc? I love it, makes me feel super light and happy to be alive. Music is all important, it is the background to my “movie” (life).

Honestly, I have been the happiest I have ever been in my life these last 5 months! What can I attribute it to? I wonder… Nothing in particular but a great attitude. I used to say to Dr. Grayson, “How can someone be spiritual all the time? Won’t they be totally boring?” He would say, “No Sandra, it always feels good.” I am understanding more and more of what he is saying! Spiritual = Happy. Spiritual = a great outlook on life. I guess I do have all my needs met. I have people I can count on, I have a safe, and fun place to live (alone is key!), and I am excited all the time about being creative, although I don’t have time to execute all the ideas in my head, I am constantly thinking about sharing my ideas and visions. I love how my unconditional love for others makes me feel so alive and happy, even if it isn’t returned! Big lesson here, even if you hold love in your heart for someone and they don’t exactly express it back, focus on how loving makes you feel! It feels sooooo good!

Yesterday the simple act of sleeping late to re-charge my body, then strolling down Main Street in Westport to grab some sustenance was totally enjoyable! The simplest things amaze and thrill me. I must have been emitting some seriously charged energy because everyone who passed said “hello” and at Oscar’s where I got my food on, they were super flirty and chatty! I got THE BEST sandwich EVER as well.

My friend Janet told me that her 88 year old mother visited from Hawaii and showed me pictures of her. She is so beautiful at 88. Janet said she is very happy and notices simple things. She said her mom mentioned the cool pattern that the telephone cord made! HA HA HA. Janet then said, “It’s almost like she is tripping all the time.” I laughed and said wow, I notice little things all the time. I hope it translates to total beauty inside and out forever for me too!

I am so grateful to be alive and to feel inspired, motivated, pleased, peaceful and to be learning all the time! Yesterday, my friend said to me that he felt I judged him. I had no idea! We discovered that it meant that he felt criticized. I told him that it is imperative that he call me out on it immediately when it is happening so that I know what he is talking about. This is an important lesson for me to learn! I think if we grow up with a critical eye, we can emulate it unknowingly and it becomes part of how we communicate our thoughts about others to others. I like to point out things I see in others and I appreciate it when they do the same for me. However, some people feel differently and it is important that we are mindful of how we come off to that person, especially if we care about them.

I told him that I felt I did it because I care about him so much. He didn’t understand and thought that was a crazy thing to say. I tried to explain that I must be pointing things out because I want him to be better, or that I care. But in the grand scheme of things, I can see it from his point of view clearly. It isn’t my place to point things out, it is better for me to just “be” in his presence and not worry about whether or not his behavior is productive or not. That is a big lesson for all of us to learn.

We must all stop trying to describe other’s behavior to them and just accept it. It is who they are. Even if we feel it is unproductive, it is not our place to determine that, ever. They are having their experience and we must allow them to. We must abstain from our vision and opinion about others because we truly never ever know if we are correct in our assumptions. It is also a big waste of our personal time. We should be focused on ourselves and what makes us happy.

Such a simple thing, is yet so profound. I am excited to be awakened to this aspect of myself and to change it! Afterall, the most exciting part about life  is our ability to wake up and be conscious, be different, and to form new habits.  My new habit will be to stop examining so much and just experience what is in front of me and accept it, surrender to it and to enjoy it for it’s difference from me.

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Don’t you hate it when you have that moment of nostalgia? You all know what I mean, that moment when you craft that correspondence to that certain someone whom you feel a void without, but you know in your heart that you can’t send it because they are going to think you are nuts. Isn’t it weird how someone will think you are crazy because you miss them and value them? Isn’t it weird to fight or to have a relationship out there that is strained because one of the people holds a grudge? This is where I begin to wonder about relationships, people, friendships, etc. I know when I have a disagreement with someone that it doesn’t feel good and that it is a distinct communication breakdown. While we all don’t have time to nurture every single connection we make through out our lives, there are those that you know are worth fostering or at least deserving of a clearing of the air.

I know in a heated moment with anyone, I can unwind out of it in an instant, and know that the strife that exists between me and the other person is utterly ridiculous and never worth the pain to remain in that negative space. So even in the middle of a disagreement or in a perceived moment of triggers, I know enough to wind out of it and make it go away. I also know that this is hard to do for most people, but it should be quite easy.

The only person you hurt while holding a grudge is yourself. I learned that a long time ago. Thankfully, I am not addicted to suffering like most human beings and I am grateful that I realize that each time I have a negative thought or experience that I am doing damage to my health, others, and assisting my ability to create DISEASE. If everyone would realize that being unforgiving is like holding a gun to your head and playing Russian roulette, perhaps they would change their ways and the world would be a more peaceful place.

Why is it that people are so attached to their suffering that they want to remain mired in negative thoughts about someone else? That is the big question and the big mystery of life. Dr. Grayson talked at the Fairfield Public Library on the 25th and described so many ways to recognize and eliminate bad feelings in relationships. He also spoke about how to remove traumas from your body so that you can being to live a more happy and productive life!  One of the most challenging issues in life is to leave your issues aside when relating with others and try to operate from a clean slate. It is nuts how people can use their own issues to create a false feeling of negativity when none was intended in the first place. It is commonplace for people to sometimes want to inflict pain and suffering on others, and that is always the result of how that person feels about themselves. IT NEVER HAS ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOU! We are all in control of how we hear, see and feel. Others are always asserting their pain when a negative situation arises. It is up to us to assume this and to be able to untangle ourselves from the pain and realize we HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH IT. It is commonplace for us to entangle in it and respond to it in kind and create even more of a mess NEEDLESSLY.

I just don’t want to do that. I have reached a point in my life whereby I don’t enjoy pain, feeling bad, and wanting to make others feel bad. I wish everyone would reach this stage and realize that it doesn’t SUCK to NOT HATE, or to SMILE, or TO HAVE FUN, TO BE HELPFUL and to be at peace. I hope I am communicating correctly the importance of realizing that when someone is a pain in the ass, THEY ARE IN PAIN- PERIOD. END OF STORY.

There are people who can annoy us, and I know how that feels. It is important to just depart ways temporarily until you become un-annoyed by them and you can repair your attitude as well. I keep hyper awareness alive at my own complaining, and I try to do it quickly and get it out when I need to , and let it go. I can no longer participate in a continuous conversation of complaints. It just wastes my life, my time and hampers my health. Life is too short, there is too much to marvel at, and too much to be grateful for.

I think a lot about how drug abuse is pervasive in our society. I believe each and every one of us has known someone who has either suffered terribly or has even died from it. No one is immune to the pain addiction causes. Addiction takes many forms, even food. Food shows on the outside, but drug abuse can be hidden. Probably, one out of 5 people passing you on the street could be high on something, you would have no idea. If a morbidly obese person passes you on the street, you know they have a food addiction.

I am particularly concerned by addiction in younger teenagers and very young adults because they haven’t achieved the feeling of mortality yet. They haven’t developed into who they could or can be and can create a destructive path laden with drugs, seriously bad behavior and low self esteem. All of these set them up for complete failure and it can rip the family unit apart faster than most any other problem.

I have known both very young, and people near my age who have had a terrible time with addiction and have known two people who have died within the past year.  Below is a post from a professional man who deals with younger people and has a service whereby he makes a living intervening and assisting  parents in dealing with hard to manage children. The key is intervention before the path to drug use begins! I read this post and I thought it was important to share with all of you. You may have parenting challenges at home, or know someone who does. There is something to be learned here.

To me, it speaks volumes and is a metaphor for life in many ways. Enabling is a serious and insidious problem and there often times an indistinguishable line between being loving and being destructive. Boundaries need to exist and we all need them to define ourselves and to create order from chaos. Boundaries create character, integrity and self esteem. Everything good in life requires work, discipline and most importantly acceptance. In turn, you will achieve peace, fulfillment, self control and the ability to discern right from wrong and comfort from discomfort.  

He makes a great point, we must all learn to live with a certain amount of discomfort and deal with it without resorting to mind numbing substances to get through the tough times. The tough times are what define us and make us realize just how resilient and powerful we are. Read with pleasure, and feel free to send to anyone who you feel would benefit from such information. I am of the school that we ALL need reminders, no matter how successful we feel we may be.  A car needs tune-ups and human beings need reminders, even if they feel it is obvious information. We all fall short sometimes, and it is easy to get in line once again and create the life and happiness you and your children deserve. 

The below post is on CONSISTENCY in terms of PARENTING:

There are significant differences and undeniable consequences of an emotionally reactive, inconsistent parenting style and a responsive and consistent parenting style. In this post I will explain those differences and discuss the outcomes of each style’s distinct relationship to potential drug abuse and/or poor emotional regulation skills in adolescents. Typically parents will transition between both styles of parenting. The degree of vacillation between the styles determines the degree of inconsistency.

The emotionally reactive parent is acting from fear. These parents tend to be permissive, often attempting to set limits and consequences then allowing the child to negotiate a lesser consequence and therefore allowing them to get their way. This creates an unpredictable environment for the child, encouraging the development of manipulation skills to maintain control over the parents to get their needs met and to avoid emotional discomfort that has resulted from their behavior. Control for the child is simply getting what they want or avoiding what they don’t want.

This dynamic plays out as follows. The parent tolerates a specific unwanted or concerning behavior for a period of time until emotional overload is reached. Once in overload, the parent emotionally reacts to the unwanted behavior by setting a limit or consequence. The child will most likely protest by acting out for the following reasons: 1.) The child has learned that a limit or a consequence is negotiable. 2.) The unwanted behavior has gone unchecked historically and any consequence now seems unfair to the child.

From the parent’s perspective there is possible guilt and discomfort associated with enforcing consequences towards the child for these reasons. 1.) The parent issued the consequence from an emotional head-space of anger and feels guilty. 2.) The parent just wants everything to be okay and has difficulty witnessing their child being uncomfortable due to a decision they made in anger.

The result is that the child is now able hold the parent hostage by either acting out or punishing the parent with the cold shoulder. The emotionally reactive parent will then scramble to make things right by compromising their boundaries so everything can be “okay” again. This can be seen in the justifying of a lesser consequence, or the all together giving in to the child’s manipulation.

The major problem with this style of parenting is that the child is the one controlling the situation. This creates an unsafe feeling for both the child and the parent. Although the child has gotten what he/she wants in that moment, they have not gotten what they unconsciously need for healthy emotional development. They do not learn the clear and safe consequences for harmful or unacceptable behavior. Ultimately there are no boundaries for the child because no doesn’t mean “no”. “No” is the beginning of a process which more times than not results in a “yes”.

As much as children will fight for their way and protest when they don’t get it, they want limits and boundaries. They want structure and predictability. When a parent says no and is willing to stick with it, they are communicating love to the child. They are communicating that they are willing to experience discomfort and expend energy because they care. It is the child’s job to push for more freedom and to get what they want when they want it. It is the parents’ job to create a safe environment of solid leadership and guidance.

With a responsive, more consistent parenting style, the child knows what to expect and will therefore become less reactive when they hear the word “no”. The parent will have a greater sense of control because they are addressing behaviors in the moment rather than avoiding conflict until they become angry. By responding from a calm and assertive energy space, the parent will experience little or no guilt because their interaction with the child is more a matter of fact than a result of heated emotions. When the parent becomes heated, they act out of fear and frustration. A parent that has established clear and firm boundaries and consistent consequences can act in confidence with their child.

Even though it is the parent enforcing the consequence, the child understands the parent is not responsible for it. The child then understands the consequences of leaving his room a mess or telling a lie. The responsibility falls on them. They are operating in a well-defined system, which is being enforced out of love.

Discomfort is a reality of life. We all experience it now and again. The tendency for parents to shelter their children from discomfort is natural. However, parents need to choose carefully what they shelter their child from. If an abusive or inappropriate coach or bus driver is creating the discomfort, than by all means, protect them. If the discomfort is a result of a natural consequence of their behavior, they need to learn how to get through it. The ability to tolerate emotional discomfort is crucial to becoming a healthy functional adult.

So many children have been taught to immediately seek an external solution upon feeling uncomfortable. They want to “just make it go away”, regardless of the cost. This unhealthy attitude is learned behavior; as is the healthy alternative of taking responsibility for their actions, realizing that they have a part in what they created, and most importantly, that they have the power to change it. Even though it’s mom and/or dad enforcing the consequences, it is not mom or dad’s fault nor is it their responsibility to “make it go away”. The child may get upset and storm off to his room, but they will learn to cope with the disappointment safely and how to take responsibility for their actions.

It is my belief that drug abuse is common among children because they have not properly learned how to take responsibility for their behavior or how to deal with their discomfort. They have learned to seek an immediate reprieve from bad feelings. Due to parents functioning primarily out of guilt and a desire to “make it go away”, children are not given the opportunity to develop internal emotional regulation skills, integrity, or the confidence that comes from dealing with the reality of their choices. Drug and alcohol abuse takes the place of these behavioral coping skills.

The good news is that these skills can be learned and adapted at any time in one’s life, providing the individual has even the slightest degree of willingness. Thus giving those who saw “no way out” a true path to new behavior and a new way of life.

If you find yourself in an employment position where it is not challenging you or using your skills, or presenting situations that are challenging, such as: aggression and jealousy, or misunderstandings due to the level of mentality of the people that surround you, know that this is a sign that you are not challenging yourself enough.  Please take note and realize that that this metaphorical reminder is there to let you know that you are smarter, have more to offer and need to pay attention to your lack of passion for whatever it is that you are doing or where ever it is that you are working.  Unfortunately, society and the media pressures tell us that we are successful if we are financially solvent. How can that be if we are miserable at the same time?

Why is that other people want to sabotage someone else’s experience at work because they are miserable and unhappy? I want every one to think about this today. In the workplace it can be hard to determine if it is “you” or “them” that is the problem. Work is a precarious environment with different rules than regular life. Since you are being paid to be there, you must adhere to a certain standard that the company has set forth, and many don’t and many get away with it.

Why can’t people accept the differences in each other and not take things so personally? That is the big question here! If you have beef with someone, YOU HAVE BEEF WITH YOURSELF and WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND WHERE YOU ARE WORKING! If you have beef with someone else, it is a direct reflection on what you have going on inside of YOU and if you imbibe someone else with bad qualities it is BECAUSE YOU HAVE THOSE QUALITIES IN YOURSELF, otherwise you wouldn’t be able to recognize them in others.
There is no need to go on and on about it, either cut that person out of your life, unfortunately if they are a co-worker, you can’t cut them out, but you will have to mindfully be aware of what you are sending them unconsciously because negative thoughts can be felt and they will have a negative effect on YOU.

If you are dissatisfied in your job, you must heed the sign, and know that you were meant for either DIFFERENT things, or BIGGER AND BETTER THINGS and a job that will allow you to use your strengths! If a manager, superior or boss rejects your wanting more responsibility or to sit on a conference call because you are interested in it and all your work is done, LEAVE! They don’t respect you! If they say to you, “you weren’t hired to do that”. LEAVE, they are myopic, destructively ego driven, insecure and don’t  have the best interest of the company in mind!

I believe everyone can add value in some way, some how, and to stop that and be an asshole to the person wanting to know MORE, is foolhardy, and it is unfortunate and small minded!

Today, I want everyone to realize that just because someone doesn’t wear something we like, or have our style or likes, or dislikes DO NOT DISREGARD THEM! Do not judge them, and do not dispel them. How boring would this world be if EVERYONE liked the SAME THINGS, DRESSED THE SAME WAY, and acted alike? I would go bonkers! What is important is how they treat you, if they respect you and themselves and how the assert their opinions. It should never be a win-lose scenario! If it is, the other person should not be in your life. They will perpetually make you miserable.

What we all need is to realize that no one is born an asshole. No one loves being mean, no one feels great walking away from a fight they just won, unless it is a champion boxer or UFC fighter, since the sport is predicated on winning… but you get what I am saying, MAKE NICE COOL Goddammit! MAKE NICE NECESSARY, MAKE NICE INTERESTING, because it isn’t awesome to make someone else feel small and insignificant. What is great is to elevate someone, praise them, and point out their best qualities. Watch what magic happens as a result! Your health will improve, you will feel instantly calm, happy, and fulfilled- NO MONEY REQUIRED!

Wake up World… WAKE UP  I SAY!

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I am not sure I subscribe to the message of fear regarding the state of affairs in the world, but I do completely agree with Andrew Harvey in terms of the truth that immediate consciousness is sorely needed by humanity. I agree with Andrew that our media is despicable and that the very things we value in this country are deplorable, and that other countries choose to idolize this worship of lower minded behavior and people and images that are forced upon us in the form of very very bad television, and magazine stories of people that should not  be applauded or made wealthy for their despicable behavior! aka: Jersey Shore, Real Housewives, et al.

People are sheep and are easily convinced about the importance of others, celebrities, etc that there exists the need for publicists to further promote products, ideas, etc by celebrity. Not necessarily celebrities that stand for positive ways of living, or asserting oneself in the world. I don’t wish to put down lower thinking people, but we keep fertilizing the media by buying into it and by not demanding more for ourselves. We can assert control by not participating in the watching, the reading the buying of these publications, but people are addicted to other’s pain like crack! America loves to watch a car wreck, or perhaps, people like to watch a car accident far more than watch something enlightening, motivating and inspiring because I believe it makes them feel better about their own circumstances. Vicious cycle of the ego perhaps.

I know I like to watch programs where people are doing well, contributing to something, or at least bettering themselves or increasing their knowledge base. Television is the most powerful media, and unfortunately it reaches and feeds en masse,the people who are least likely to look at themselves, let alone want to better themselves and that is precisely why we are in the position that we are intellectually. America is too busy waiting to visit Graceland, and take on the latest look shown on Jersey Shore to attract that small minded man who has no idea who he is or how to treat a woman! Oh brother, I could just go on and on about why society needs a massive tune up. The ones who don’t wish to open their minds are the most fearful of change and of their own personal power. They are the ones only using the smallest fraction of their brain. The most exciting part of life is the ability to change, have great experiences of positive enforcement, and to feel loved. Giving is the most precious thing we can do for another!

Just listen to the show to understand that things need to change drastically.

I have been thinking so much about parents in the past few months. I talk to many people about their parents, about parenting and so on. I have a strong opinion on “not talking to your parents”, or cutting them out of your life. I don’t feel it is a good idea. This is why:

Your parents are people too. Aside from being a parent, there is a whole nother world in them that makes them a person, aside from being your parent. I know this sounds simple but before you, they had a world, a personality, a life, and experiences, just like we have, as kids. Just because they have a child doesn’t necessarily mean they are going to not be a person anymore, learning, growing, and making mistakes, just like we do.  It just so happens that they may make mistakes and it may effect us in some way inadvertently. Of course there are others who are more inclined to be more patient than others, or more understanding, or distant or affectionate, etc.  Everyone is different in how they assert themselves and parent.

My point is, parents do the best they can within their abilities as human beings. I wish for a moment for every child of a parent to stop and think about how much your parent did for you growing up, what a sacrifice it is and how your life now becomes secondary as a result of having a child. Many parents don’t realize the huge sacrifice it is until they are immersed in it, nervous, tired, not knowing what to do and just trying to make everything alright. Think about how you, as a adult child try to make everything alright, and imagine, if you don’t have a child already, imagine having a child on top of trying to figure yourself, life and your happiness out all at the same time! It isn’t easy!

Be easier on your parents, and try to stop blaming them for your difficulties as an adult in the present time. Be enlightened enough to be grateful for all the sacrifices they made and be grateful you were born and given life! Life is a gift! Stop placing expectations on your parents, and stop blaming them for every little thing gone wrong in your life. Ultimately, you are responsible for how you assert yourself in the world, they served as a guide as best as they could being who they were, are and are becoming.

I am not suggesting you pardon blatant physical abuse, but I am saying please realize that they have problems too and may not deal with them in the best manner, but that doesn’t make them villians. We need to all take responsibility for ourselves and our behavior and stop blaming others. When does personal responsibility occur? The other day my friend was telling me that her 80 something year old mother still talks about abandonment by her mother! I don’t know, it just doesn’t seem right to me that people should hold on to such negativity in terms of how much sacrifice and how much parents go through to do the right thing, half the time they are just hoping and guessing it’s the right thing! Right and wrong are relative.

I don’t know about you, but I am grateful for my mother and all she did for me! I am grateful she is alive to talk with, to share my life experiences with and to have as a friend. It means the world to me.  The only regret I have in life is that I was awful to her at times because I didn’t know she was a person too and I expected perfection from her. I now thank her for putting up with me!

Just take some time today to reflect on parents, parenting, and how difficult a job it really is and be grateful for what your parents did DO for you instead of focusing on what THEY DIDN’T, or what you “feel” they did wrong. The only thing you can do is love them.

If some interaction occurs that makes you uncomfortable, because you feel mistreated by them, let them know about your discomfort, but don’t be emotionally harmful to them. Let them know that perhaps you need another way for them to talk with you, or assist you, or whatever, but parents don’t have to do anything beyond 18 years old, as A LAW, but we all know that the bond of family is important and it nutures one and makes them feel safe in world where things seem to be changing all the time. Your mother and father will always be your mother and father, but the world will inevitably throw you some real challenges, and only you can handle them with your own instincts and ways about YOU.

Don’t let negative feelings in yourself harm your interactions with your family. Afterall, we are all in control of how we react. That is everything. We choose what we place importance on, and if we try to imbibe our parents with all these godly attributes, we are going to be let down. Be realistic about humanity, being human and look within yourself the next time you want to put your parent down or blame them for something that goes wrong in your life. Take responsibility today and grow and love your parents for what THEY DID DO FOR YOU AND WHAT THEY CONTINUE TO DO… Peace!

PS- a coworker teased me about not having huge fanfare for Betheny Ever After and this is what I emailed him back, “I don’t think people should “not talk to their parents”.. there is an immaturity to that, because they don’t realize that parents are people too, aside from being a parent… they aren’t perfect and they do a lot for their children regardless. They have their own set of problems and to not realize that is immature.”  This is what prompted this blog post.  Also, I saw an old friend last night and he said, “Sandra, kids are really, really hard.”

Learning about the “law of attraction” can be one of the grandest blessings you can receive in your life. When you learn the true “cause” of your experience of reality, and that you can actually ALTER that reality in any way that you wish, it opens a door of Infinite Possibility!

After all, imagine that any level of wealth can be yours! Your life can be enriched with the most fulfilling relationships imaginable! You can spend your time doing only those things you love, and in return, experience abundance that seems impossible from the outside looking in!

However, too many people learn only the “basics” of the Law of Attraction, and as a result make 5 common mistakes that make it appear as though this universal law does not apply to them, and in fact gives them results completely OPPOSITE of what they desire.

Before going into these mistakes, let’s review what the Law of Attraction actually is. It’s deceptively simple: Energy attracts Like Energy.

Broken down a little more, this means that everything in this Universe (physical and non-physical) IS Energy that vibrates at various frequencies. And it is the nature of the vibrations of this Energy to “attract” themselves to vibrations of a similar frequency. In other words, one “cluster” of Energy attracts itself to other “clusters” of Energy in which it is in vibrational resonance.

This happens on both a very small and very large scale. For our purposes, we are talking about the very common idea that our “thoughts create our reality”.

This simple statement leads to people making the following mistakes and assumptions, because while thought IS Energy, and it DOES attract, it’s not always so straightforward.

How many of these mistakes apply to you?

1. Believing that “Positive Thinking” is enough to attract what you want.
The reality is that many people use various forms of positive thinking on a conscious level (such as affirmations), only to cancel out those thoughts on a subconscious level.

For example, telling yourself “I am lean, healthy, and energetic” when the mirror says something different, usually results in your subconscious saying, “No you’re not!!”. Further, this subconscious rebuttal is generally highly charged with emotion, and thus a very powerful attractor.

Therefore, if left unchecked, the use of affirmations can give you a very strong OPPOSITE result of those things you are affirming, because at a much stronger level of conviction, you are canceling the positive message with a negative one.

2. Asking yourself, “Well, where is it?”
People ARE impatient. When they learn about the Law of Attraction, they often have high hopes that they will simply make their lists of desires, cut out pictures, or in some other way design their reality, and then after a couple of days, weeks, or even months, they’re looking around saying, “Well?? Where is it??”

The problem isn’t that the Universe can’t deliver quickly. The problem is that you were never REALLY vibrating in a place of trust that what your desires is yours. You are more “testing the theory”, then becoming impatient when the Universe doesn’t deliver on your time schedule.

What you may not realize is that from the beginning of the process, there has been resistance. There has been a lack of “allowing” in terms of how and when your desire will be fulfilled, which shows itself through your expression of impatience.

Which leads to mistake number 3:

3. Determining ahead of time, HOW and WHEN you will attract what you want.
The law of attraction works because and when you allow it to. The nature of the Universe is infinite. Our conscious minds are not. When we have a desire, we very often tend to “figure out” how the Universe is going to deliver – be it through our jobs, the lottery, or some other source in particular.

When you attach yourself to one particular outcome, you are cutting off an infinite (literally) number of other ways your desire can be attracted.

4. Allowing your emotions to be led by “external evidence”.
This is where people tend to give up. Because their experience of reality is different than what they are trying to attract, they allow themselves to feel frustrated, which of course, only acts to attract more of what will frustrate them.

This all starts because there is, on some level, a basic lack of trust that the Law of Attraction actually has scientific basis. Because after all, if you have TOTAL trust/faith, then your vibration will reflect that and two things will happen: 1) Your desire will come to you as quickly as possible, and 2) You literally won’t give external reality a second thought, because you’ll realize that what you’re looking at now is simply a result of what you’ve been attracting to that point, and that change is on the way provided you hold your NEW vibration consistently.

5. Not taking care of your limiting beliefs that run at a deeper level.
As mentioned earlier, you have a lifetime of limiting beliefs that have helped to create the reality that you are now trying to change. You have manifested everything around you based on these beliefs, and the feelings associated with those beliefs.

These beliefs run so deep, that you hardly consider them “beliefs”. They occur to you as just “how things are”. Further, these beliefs have very specific emotions attached to them, and chances are you can FEEL these emotions on some level every time one of these beliefs shows themselves.

How will this show up?

Let’s suppose you’re wanting to manifest a large amount of money. When you think about that, there might be a certain emotion that immediately comes up for you. This might be associated with a thought like, “I’ll never be able to attract that. It’s too much.” This might be connected to a feeling that you don’t DESERVE that amount, or you might feel frustrated with the “bigness” of it.

Either way, these negative emotions are the very energy that is REPELLING what you want! When you learn to RELEASE those emotions, you clear the way for the Universe to deliver what you desire, whatever it is. But until and unless you eliminate the resistance, you will not be in vibrational alignment with what you desire, and thus you can NOT experience it!

There are several “releasing” methods available, such as “The Sedona Method”, and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) that can quickly and easily eliminate these energetic blocks.

These are just 5 of the more common mistakes that “newbies” to the Law of Attraction make. There are several more that we list at our web site where we also delve into how to reverse these mistakes so that the Law of Attraction can become a monumentally powerful force in your life!