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I am pretty pumped about my new Scout purchases. Goodbye Vineyard Vines Mini and Medium Tote- YAY! I can’t wait to retire them, so PLAYED OUT! It was the size of the tote that made me carry it. This weekend, I got my ass a different tote that I love so much more.
I also got the tiny little make up bag, and the laptop case! You can wipe it all clean because the fabric is coated… so much better than ivory cotton getting all dirty and the patchwork fraying. Scout is the way to go… practical, strong, cute and affordable!
See the green striped storage bin? Scout! I now use it in my bathroom closet to put all my LADY ITEMS in it so I don’t have to look at a bag of pads and boxes of tampons on my shelf! YUCK! Now it’s never that time of the month because I don’t have to look at them! Go to 136 Washington Street, South Norwalk, Tues. thru Saturday to get Scout Bags and oliver green belts for your last minute holiday shopping!
SCOUT WINDOW
My talented, and hard working friend Kathleen Olsen has performed a miracle and opened a pop up store all on her own in one week’s time to help you with your holiday shopping! Not only does she have impeccable taste, but the store is GORGEOUS! Scout bags are the only thing I use to transport my belts because they are super pretty, durable and waterproof- AND- hold a lot of weight!
If you want decorative, cheerful storage bins, pretty tote bags, sturdy and stylish coolers with a strap- hip flooring and so so so much more, GO CHECK HER OUT! Because as it’s slated right now, she will only be there thru December’s end! Store hours- Thurs., Friday, Sat. 11-8 and Sunday, Tues and Wed. 12-6.
She is also carrying my cute keyfobs, and will be featuring some of my oliver green belts soon as well!
Park right at the end of Washington, cross the street and go into a wonderland of color and first class- funky and eclectic tastes of Kathleen!
She is open Friday, Saturday, Sunday- GO GET YOUR SCOUT ON GIRL! Go escape, shop and take it all in, COLOR, FUN, and a great sales girl!
Pink Dog House/Mini Bunny Barn
The Vision of Kathleen Olsen
The first 3 episodes made me so uncomfortable. Laura Dern plays Amy, a woman who has just returned from a rehab center after having a mental breakdown. Amy is socially awkward and puts herself in some “self created” social land mines time and time again. She isn’t “garden variety” cringe-worthy like Larry David. She takes it to a whole nother level.
I am a firm believer in at least watching two episodes of a series on cable. More than likely you will “get it” after the second show. I was reluctant to continue to journey into Enlightened, but I am glad I did. I’ve now caught up to the current schedule and have found it to be Six Feet Under “dark”, The Big C, funny, and thought provoking too.
Since “Amy” is on a path of enlightenment, it is interesting to see how a series will convey spirituality and the reaction of others to someone who is fully trying to embrace the better part of her being. Laura Dern created this show with Mike White and they are definitely onto something. I like hearing the thoughts in “Amy’s” head. They are realistic, and make me realize that everyone can relate to her character which was a revelation, after experiencing her “crazy” in the first four episodes. She begins to become more bearable as the show goes on.
Amy’s ex husband is played by Luke Wilson, who doesn’t love a little LUKE? Her ex, is drug addicted, cute and sort of stagnant and they have a lot of love between them. You wonder, drug addicted because of all the heartbreak in their past, or always that way.
Her mom is played by Diane Ladd and Amy’s mother is disappointly jaded and non communicative, BUT does have a minute of shine- exactly ONE MINUTE, once in a blue moon.
I say, WATCH IT! I am into it now. There are some funny situations, characters, and some inspiring dialogue. After-all, it is about someone actually “Waking Up.” I like that is on cable because it brings the edge necessary to be realistic.
—oh and Robin Wright was a guest star on one. She is pretty cool in my book…
R.E.D.
One of my absolute most favorite people on the planet, Rebecca Dolber, makes jewelry. It’s not fluffy, ordinary stuff that every- day girls wear. It is earthy, aware, and worldly. She travels extensively globally to obtain eclectic little charms, beads, and little details that make her pieces distinctly original.
When you see her at craft shows, her tent is always bustling with people thinking, deciding, trying on and creating their own pieces that Rebecca puts together right before their eyes.
The Grove Stand at a Craft Show
What is wonderful about this process is that it involves two people. The artisan, Rebecca, and the client, who picks out precisely what they want. Rebecca artfully puts it together so it makes sense aesthetically and the client loves it because it reflects who they are.
Notice the message- the word- "evolve"
The charms and add ables are in the hundreds- and the dog tags, which I personally love and have bought for personal friends, because you can imprint a word that is meaningful to you and wear it as a reminder of who you are or who you want to be.
me and my arrow...
Thing is … She is ethereal, earthy, honest, raw and such a kind person. She has an ability to reach deep inside of you, if she chooses, and brings out the quiter, easier parts of who you already are and make you think just a little bit more. She is comfortable in her skin, lovely, and so easy to be around. Rebecca is the true meaning of “Indie.” She is an independent spirit who lives life on her terms, much like I do, and I write this because I wear a piece of her, and a piece of me everyday, as I reach for my bracelets, necklaces or ring. I am reminded of what a gentle, uplifting and poetic spirit she truly is and how I wish to be and am in this life time.
go here: http://www.etsy.com/shop/thegrovestand - you will be glad you did.
my personal daily wear... from R.E.D. The Grove Stand
message....blue...
Late last night, I caught The Mark Twain Award Ceremony for Tina Fey on PBS. As I watched, I thought to myself, “Why are there no great media female role models out there?” I became disturbed by my recent memories of cardio at the gym earlier where my equipment was in front of a television where Kim Kardashian was on the television numerous times with her plasticy, over made up face and all these external things which I surmise make her popular. Her large breasts, behind and not to mention her incessant provocative clothing. I wondered why this woman garners so much attention. Is it that she is a circus freak? Sort of like a spectacle whereby you cannot help but look and listen about her because she is so utterly ridiculous? I think about how women like this become famous for no reason, the Paris Hiltons, the Kim Kardashians, the Snookis, etc.
Last night Jackie was over sewing and we had the craft room television on and it happened to be on a show about plastic surgery gone wild. We both were agape with awe and disgust. Why is it that in 2011 women are still deforming themselves all for the attention of men? They don’t do it for themselves! They get procedures that are classicly barbie doll-esque so that men as a whole will find them “irresistible.” I don’t know about you, but I get totally grossed out when “noer do well” men (meaning mean, uninspired, drunk, angry, etc) check me out and oogle me. If I had it my way, only kind, well attired, intellectual and funny men would look my way. (ha ha ha) I feel skeeved to have eyes on me, which is why I don’t wear provocative clothing– it’s also because I have no desire to have men look at me “that way”. I’d much rather sift through the dirt and find that one diamond who will find my mind irresistible because they are the ones who stick around for the “long haul”. It is incredibly sad to me that women in this day and age and supposed PROGRESSION are still are so fucking insecure and fall prey to MEDIA MANUFACTURED media standards of beauty!
What is beauty?: health, kindness, peace of mind, curiosity, humor, being loving, and completely comfortable about who you are. and of course KNOWING WHO YOU ARE- a STRONG SENSE OF SELF IS BEAUTIFUL beyond measure.
I feel so sad for women in Hollywood that feel the pressure to keep deforming themselves in order to “keep that man” or to “get that part”. What a sad life they live indeed. The whole time they spend exercising, dieting, nipping, tucking, injecting, extending, coloring, and changing their external instead of developing their internal. And more than likely, this external attention they prioritize will bring them the wrong guy or the wrong attention anyway. By wrong, I mean men or people who only value what someone looks like instead of who they are. I know I am making a sweeping generalization here, but you get my point.
More women need to write screenplays featuring characters of all colors, sizes and ages, whereby a story of value is illustrated- the human condition- and inspiring! Women need to write for women, because most men will write stories featuring actors and actresses who are in their 20s, which is TOTALLY HILARIOUS because people that age rarely contend with the issues presented in the screenplay in real life! When is art going to reflect reality? Please give me some reality so I can put things into proper perspective….
All these thoughts swimming around in my mind made me come to a real conclusion- There needs to be better female role models who are featured in the media! It needs to be better than actresses on every magazine with stories about fledgling relationships, cheating and their new bodies. old bodies and new men! I feel so entirely insulted that these magazines are targeted toward women!
And women keep buying them, keeping themselves down and ”paying” the very people who prey on them and their insecurities making them monetarily RICH and themselves self esteem poor.
America is in a state of disarray, where I see people continue to stay mired in victim-hood, they are uninspired, lazy, and are focused on all the wrong things! They are focused on other people instead of them SELVES. The Occupy Wall Street is a great example of what is truly wrong with America! People expend energy on highlighting others “perceived wrong” instead of elevating themselves to new heights for achievement! I don’t know what has gone wrong here, but the tables need to be turned, BIG TIME.
You see, I am a Republican (I usually don’t talk politics because it is divisive) but I am going to try to explain why I choose this party. I choose it because I BELIEVE IN PEOPLE! I am an OPTIMIST at large. I believe people can rise and become better because I know I have. I have done the work on myself whereby I know I am a good person who works hard, has values and derives my self esteem from my personal accomplishments and helping others. I also derive it from being peaceful and feeling uncomfortable with “fighting.” Everyone should feel uncomfortable with fighting, arguing and ill intent. It is entirely not enjoyable nor normal to seek revenge, make people feel bad, and to assert yourself in this world with a force that creates bad energy for yourself or others. It’s down right weird to fight or to feel that you must create dischord to “get what you need or want”. I find the less you expend, the more comes your way, in terms of universal fulfillment. Because you see, the more you deem “not important” the more it becomes NOT IMPORTANT. While I know this is a simple statement, but if you really read it slowly, you will see how powerful it is. My motto, from Karen Salmonsohn, from www.notsalmon.comis LET GO OR BE DRAGGED. Isn’t it truly simple? Ok, I digress, don’t hate me for believing in people, believing in their ability to love themselves, work and be productive. Don’t hate me for believing people should work for what they have because it creates value. Everything I work for, I value.
I also believe in assisting others within reason whereby it doesn’t interfere with personal goals. I have, for a long time, over-helped people to the point of putting myself on hold, but that no longer happens. I find myself becoming a bit uncomfortable sometimes when I must step back in order to listen to my needs and respond, but I do it anyway, and it’s been great for me. I love to be of service, but it can’t be to the detriment of my progression, happiness, and impede my schedule, health, comfort, and goals that I must achieve to survive and succeed.
Of course, I digressed because I am always thinking about a billion plus things… but back to ROLE MODELS! As I sit here attempting to come up with some seriously cool, smart women that I can look up to, sadly, I cannot. I don’t know enough about any of the entrepreneurs, inventors and writers personally to tout them, PLUS- I CANNOT THINK OF ONE AT THE TOP OF MY HEAD because they ARE NEVER FEATURED IN ANYWHERE TOTALLY MAINSTREAM! If no one else finds this COMPLETELY ALARMING- well then, America should just throw in the towel, which they are doing already because everyone is throwing their arms up and saying ” I GIVE UP.” I give up on my America and just want to blame others for my misfortune.
I am determined to include some WOMEN ROLE MODELS IN AN UPCOMING POST, unfortunately, it’s going to take some deep digging, and research- isn’t that a SHAME? Shouldn’t I be able to raggle off like 5 or 6 that are regularly featured in mainstream media!? I need to identify women who are cool, aren’t afraid to be “them selves”, and don’t dress solely for MEN’s admiration. GOD! How hard will that be to find? I can think of one I admire, Gwen Stefani- cause she has her own style- has a cute husband, is an artist, entrepreneur, doesn’t get into trouble with drugs, problems, etc.
I feel very strongly that young girls and women need better role models, doesn’t mean that they can’t be glamourous, like Gwen Stefani, just means that their focus needs to be on self development, not external development such as tit jobs, makeup, slutty clothing, etc.
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH– help! what is an intellectual like me to do? 
Last night I was SO JEALOUS of a guy who was able to pee outside so discreetly. I said, “I want to invent a device whereby women can pee outdoors without having to pull down their pants, etc. So today, I did some research online and found something called GO GIRL! I am so psyched! I hike and never have a place to pee, etc. Plus peeing can totally ruin a good event- waiting on lines, etc. Now you can go outside discreetly without having to make a huge ordeal out of it!
This is exactly how I envisioned it. Seems that all my imagination inventions have already been made!
I am defintely buying one of these asap! They would make great xmas presents! www.go-girl.com
Simply put, GoGirl is the way to stand up to crowded, disgusting, distant or non-existent bathrooms. It’s a female urination device (sometimes called a FUD) that allows you to urinate while standing up. It’s neat. It’s discreet. It’s hygienic.
GoGirl is easy to use. put GoGirl against your body, forming a seal. Aim and, well, pee. Pretty simple, huh?
GoGirl fits easily in your purse, pocket, or glove compartment. It’s a must for travel and sports. And it’s great for everyday––no more crouching over or trying to cover up an unsanitary public toilet.
While the concept may be new to you, European women have used female urination devices for years. GoGirl’s not the first device of its kind. But try it. And we think you’ll agree it’s easily the best.
Only GoGirl is made with flexible, medical grade silicone. Dispose of it after use. Or clean and reuse as you like. (Urine is sterile, but the product can come into contact with contaminates during use, so take precautions when cleaning.) Our patented splash guard eliminates messing and spilling. Once you practice a time or two, using a GoGirl is going to feel like second nature. You won’t be like a man. You’ll just pee like one. HA HA HA HA HA HA. I love this phrase!
Yesterday was super fun. I was at the gym and I highly recommend doing cardio in 15 minute spurts, back to back, but changing machines EVERY 15 minutes! This way, you don’t get bored! The Arc Trainer should definitely be on your list because that machine is
F-U-N! The Bike, and add another two machines where you “stand”. I will look at them tonight and report back because there is another fun one, but it is much harder than the Arc on my knees.
Also, working for me was some Cypress Hill, Hole in Your Head. While I know lyrically, it isn’t comforting, but it’s fun. Along with Ill Communication LP from Beasties. SO GOOD! Like Ma Bell… and um.. The Scoop and Root Down- from Ill is twice as nice.
I cannot wait to go back to the gym tonight and do some cardio and listen to some Brand Nubian, Fugazi, and Rollins. I realize that my selections reveal my “era” but I think I am just too overwhelmed to try to figure out some new stuff to like and download. It just takes up too much time but alas, the ARC awaits me, and I look forward to it’s swinging bliss.
here’s a little ‘gift’ of a song for you.. i love new order… don’t you?
I just saw an ad for H&M which now carries a line for Versace. This line makes me cringe and laugh at the same time. Is it the 17- 25 year old girls who will wear this “old lady” apparel, and not only will they appear slutty because all the lines are too short, but you and I know that in your 20s you have no fucking clue who you are, what you stand for, and this clothing style should be for women who know who they are, and know how to handle the the unflattering, yet “desired” attention due to incredibly “low self esteem”.
If they would know how to handle the sexual advances from noer do wells that will inevitably occur as a result of putting the message out there to look at me, I would be very surprised because most women in their 20s confuse sexual attention and find themselves “valuable” as a result.
The clothing that is shown these days for our “younger generation” is ridiculously suggestive, short and skews “old”, I recall older women donning this sort of attire, back in the day. The silk fabric, the ah hem. this will date me, Dynasty days, this SHIT IS OUT and totally incongruous with valuing one SELF. It is false bravado due to the fact that these girls feel that their sole value lies in their body and looks ONLY! This is how they choose to assert themselves in the world, wow.. so sad indeed. It’s like they are playing dress up to be “mature”! yuck, why rush it?????? In your 20s, your sole value is how you skew on the attractive scale to MEN, yuck. That is all girls are concerned about because they fail to develop a strong sense of self. They use whatever it is on the outside to create a false value and inevitably make more mistakes than they should in terms of selection of men, esp! They date older, creepy guys, who have money and the guys, to me, seem like pedophiles. I don’t know, I just don’t get this at all. I am tired of people trying to grow up so fast, and take on so much when they are clearly ill-equipped to do so.
I am tired of models being teenage girls, and kids doing drugs because they can’t handle their lives! Are you serious? What the fuck is there to handle at 13-27ish? Just be young, date your own age, and learn slowly what makes you happy and stop using sex as a way to connect with people, try using your brain, you will feel far better about yourself and more than likely won’t turn to drugs because you feel so awful about being abused, used, and thrown away because you wore this dress out in the first place!
I guess Gossip Girl doesn’t help in terms of what young people wear, and how they behave like “adults”. I am sorry, but I honestly feel that girls in their 20s are just that, GIRLS. They make a lot of bad decisions, don’t really know how to effectively assert themselves with confidence, are concerned about the “wrong” things in life. While I realize that this is a blazing GENERAL STATEMENT, lots of it is true.
I do realize that many girls in their 20s marry, have children and actually can stay married to the person they choose in their 20s, however, they are a major minority. Can girls in their 20s land more responsible jobs, yes! Can they even be an attorney, yes! But we all know, down deep inside, that girls should wait until they are women to dress like one, be able to handle all that becomes with being a real woman, and assert themselves with confidence and not a bitchy false bravado that emulates high school days!
A real woman is: confident without bravado, kind, loving, secure, has boundaries in terms of behavior (creating character), self worth, and doesn’t overdo anything to excess. She maintains control of herself and her emotions and she won’t compromise her integrity, ever.
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