I keep thinking about America, and STYLE! My own personal style is classic American with a twist of edge to convey necessary femininity. Last night, while sewing and listening to Aerosmith Rocks and Draw the Line, I found myself day dreaming. I saw my runway show. I now know what I want to create in terms of a full scale clothing company. Of course, I won’t reveal my secret here, because my idea is sorely needed out there.

The pieces will be rather classic, but have cuts that are more flattering, prints that are more daring, and luxurious fabrics which will feel great next to your skin.
The colors will be of utmost importance as well as saturation degree, as that will be a defining factor in terms of separating myself from enmasse.
Think: American Muscle Cars, Triumph Bikes, Classic Keg Parties in the Woods, Beach Bon Fires, Aerosmith, Boston, Foghat, Soundgarden, Fondue, Microbrewed Beer, Sunsets, City Streets, Surf and Skate Style, Worn in jeans, Ultra soft cotton, Wheat fields, Barbeques, Bare Feet, The 70s, The 60s…

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I find tee shirts such as this quite disturbing.

http://www.urbanoutfitters.com/urban/catalog/productdetail.jsp?id=24581035&color=010

I won’t post the picture of it because it is so gross. This is what is WRONG with America these days! People who demonize others for working, for making money. What about all the people who rip off the welfare system or unemployment, YOU all know who you are. Knowing you can work, but not taking the job because it is “beneath you.” You would rather sit home and collect money for doing nothing out of stupid pride! I will work just about anywhere to pay my bills! No foolish pride here. The secret to life is NOT GIVING A SHIT WHAT ANY BODY ELSE THINKS! That is imperative to a happy and peaceful life. If you have to take a job that isn’t optimal, SO WHAT!!! Just do it- What are people afraid of? Seriously!! The people who judge aren’t your friends- never were, so WHY THE FUCK DO YOU CARE WHAT THEY THINK???

If people had higher self esteem, they wouldn’t be in the FINANCIAL JAMS they are in DUE TO WANTING TO IMPRESS OTHERS and buying way too much stuff that they cannot afford— but they love to BLAME THE FINANCIAL INSTITUTIONS for the high interest rates they charge- KNOWING THAT THE PERSON SIGNING ON THE LINE IS A FUCKING RISK and more than likely won’t pay their debt! Really folks!!!!??? ARE WE A COUNTRY OF BABIES??? OF VICTIMS??? OMG- seriously- the only thing you should be is ashamed of your self for not doing enough work on your self to realize that the people who you are TRYING TO IMPRESS WITH YOUR FANCY CAR, HOME, and CLOTHES- and IF YOU THINK ABOUT IT, WHAT MAKES IT FANCY?? THE FUCKING LABEL??? It is just material matter formed into a product with clever enough marketing to PREY UPON INSECURE MOTHERFUCKERS like yourselves— SO YOU CAN FEEL LIKE YOU FIT IN!!!

Fit in where, I ask??? So you all love to lay blame on the people who actually make money and HATE THEM??? How sad indeed is the day America starts to hate the economy. What is the alternative? To all live in tin shacks? This is the saddest tee shirt I have seen in a long time. The time is ripe to stop hate, stop laying blame and realize it was YOU who signed on the DOTTED LINE FOR YOUR HOME, it was YOU who took that HIGH INTEREST RATE CREDIT CARD and it was YOU who bought all that SHIT YOU CANNOT AFFORD because you are LAZY and don’t do a fucking thing to foster self esteem! It was YOU who decided to NOT go to college, or to be whoever you chose (plumber, lawyer, doctor etc.)Read a self help book, learn about WHO YOU ARE instead of trying to be SOMEONE YOU THINK OTHERS WILL LOVE.

MY GOD, what pathetic, LAZY, UNEDUCATED VICTIMS WE ARE! YUCK… give me the America where people love to work, want to work, will do whatever it takes to provide what they need for their families. What the fuck is going on? A bunch of wining babies who don’t wish to progress in life in any way shape or form. They want to remain in their high school heads, act immature, unprofessional and take no repsonsibility for the people they are to BECOME by personal GROWTH!

YUCK, YUCK, YUCK- AMERICA STOP ENABLING these baby victims, and GET BACK TO WORK- Wait tables, do what ever it requires to get yourself going again! STOP CRYING, and stop BLAMING— SHAME ON YOU AMERICA!!! I WOULD NEVER WANT TO BE PITIED- I would only want to command respect by doing what I need to do, Legally, to survive- and thrive. Hard work never hurt anybody- it only helps- keeps you out of trouble, and BUSY!

AH, this all gives me a great big headache. People thinking they have had no choice as to how their life pans out… really? What about all those movies where the underdog wins? RUDY, etc? Self esteem is rooted in earning your keep- GET REAL PEOPLE- instead of occupying wall street, why don’t you try occupying your LOCAL FREE LIBRARY and taking some time to learn a fucking skill? Try cracking open a goddamn book and read- and teach your ass something? How about sharpening and honing your people relating skills so that people actually WANT you in their company working?? How about that??? Occupy your own SELF- get to know who you are, what you want, what moves you, what you could be GOOD or GREAT AT and go for it.

Just months ago-- this crazy cat!

Man, busy! My 14.5 year old pug has had to endure emergency eye surgery as of last Friday. I was faced with a decision that had to be made within an hour to preserve her sight, and prevent a hole from forming in her cornea. This was not an easy decision, but I will say the alternative to not agreeing to surgery would be far worse. Roxie happens to be a spry dog for her age. She is tough like Spartacus, yet smaller in stature than her brethren breed. If I hadn’t risked surgery, I would have to have her live in pain every day, with a festering eye, eventually requiring removal- I would presume. What kind of life would she or I have and why would I make her endure endless suffering until the loss of her eye- or worse- death.

When you become a dog owner, you make a firm commitment to them. They are part of your family and require a lot of care, maintenance, and medical care.  Being a dog owner is no joke and I flinch at those who simply buy a puppy because it’s “so cute.” Many don’t know the responsibility a dog poses, yet they airily purchase a cute puppy only to fail miserably in terms of proper care, love, and training.

When I bought Roxie, I made an oath to supply her with the best training, love, and help should she need it, when she needed it. It is a price I pay for her eternal love, devotion and the  joy she brings me each day. I get to marvel at how cute she is, despite her creating war with me over the pills she must take to heal, despite the stress of having to watch her be hampered in her Elizabethan collar to protect her newly surgically enhanced eye, and the pain of knowing that I cannot communicate to her properly that this is all quite temporary, until she is out of the woods in terms of healing.

Owning a dog is a huge responsibility. I cringe at the thought of people who have dogs and are cavalier about their responsibilities to care for their pets properly. If you cannot give them the best possible care, time, energy, love, kindness and medical care, DO NOT BUY ONE. Adore them from afar, go to a dog park to play with other’s dogs, but don’t BUY ONE if you won’t do WHAT YOU MUST to give them what they need. If you cannot afford a dog, DON’T BE SELFISH and buy one because they are cute. They will be forever devoted to you, and if you aren’t 100% devoted to them, which many aren’t, DON’T BUY ONE or ADOPT ONE.

One must really think about what it means to be a dog’s momma or daddy. They aren’t much different from children in terms of their needs, except they can’t communicate orally when they are in discomfort.

Even though I haven’t slept a full night in about 3 weeks, have to con, fight, or war with my baby to get her to take her pills so she will be around, make sure she eats, gets out enough and remains stimulated enough to want to fight through these last 10 days of pills, collar and eyeball graft, I love my baby pug. She is deserving of all this from me, given that she has been by my side through some pretty emotionally challenging times, always with a kiss, a cuddle and happy to see me each and every day.

Thank you Roxie, You are more than worth this effort! I will have no life outside these four walls until we see our 2 week point. Don’t give up on your dog because they would never give up on you.

calm down you fat shits! you will get your burgers!

THE craziest thing happened today when I temporarily parked in the handicap spot in front of Shake Shack, notice the word temporarily!  So there I was driving around the way too small parking lot, circling and being patient waiting for a spot to open up. I noticed NO ONE in line and decided to quickly pull backwards into a handicap spot in front, knowing I would obtain my vibrating tool for notification when my order was ready, go back outside and wait for a spot to open up, and be ready should anyone NEED the spot immediately!

I run up to the cashier and say, “Wow, you guys need to work on getting more parking.” She smiled and was so nice and said, “yes, we are getting more, I am totally sick of people coming in with an attitude and being mean because of the parking situation.” I was very nice about it, then out of the blue comes this woman behind me, in a ball of aggression and anger screaming, “Did you just park in a handicap spot?” I replied, “Yes.” This 68 year old woman flew into a rage I have never quite experienced from a stranger! She started screaming the following comments:

1. Call the cops, Call 911!

2. Get the manager!

3. DO NOT FEED HER!

4. Do not serve her

5. Look at her, she is clearly not handicapped!

6. Look at her! Clearly the world revolves ALL AROUND HER!

7. She thinks she is the only person that matters!

and then others started to chime in, “Get her out of here!”  “Who does she think she is” , “Look at her”, call 911!!  etc.

I turned to her and said, “Shut the fuck up!” I didn’t know what else to say! I was shaking with fear, glad I had on good deodorant and just wanted to get my notification tool and get outside to move my car into an UN HANDICAPPED spot, which was my plan all ALONG! I felt that the vitriol that came my way DID NOT DESERVE AN EXPLANATION OF MY GAME PLAN.. I was thinking wow, IF ONLY I HAD ON MY VIDEO phone so I could youtube this shit- it would have went VIRAL for sure! But I knew I had to get outside to remedy the sitch.  You would have thought by the intense reaction I got that I was sitting outside picking off people with a machine gun! People, the punishment did not fit the VERY TEMPORARY- 3 MINUTE CRIME! Settle the FUCK DOWN!

Imagine if I would have gotten out my phone and began taping her. I already felt in complete danger as I felt she was going to belt me in my face! This was a quite dramatic display of craziness! If she had talked to me like a normal human being, perhaps I wouldn’t have told her to shut the fuck up, and explained my game plan but who do people think they are? Self- titled COPS OR SOME SHIT?

I never park in handicap, and didn’t know people go postal if they see you! People need to take a pill and learn how to express their discontent in a more humane way! and Shake Shack NEEDS TO STEP UP AND GET MORE PARKING to help their employees face much less anger from customers.

Listen to this! http://wbai.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=356&Itemid=135

Armand F. DiMele, R-C.S.W., C.R.C., B.C.D., scientist, clinical, teacher and supervisor, has conducted workshops, lectures, classes and training seminars on Understanding Human Functioning at learning and health care institutions throughout the United States and in Europe. INTRODUCED ME TO ESTHER, on the Postive Mind Radio Show… Get his 3 cd set featuring his very interesting interview with Esther!!!

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http://Estherperel.com/about.html

Psychologist Esther Perel is recognized as one of the world’s most original and insightful voices on couples and sexuality across cultures. Fluent in nine languages, the Belgian native is a celebrated speaker sought around the globe for her expertise in emotional and erotic intelligence, work-life balance, cross-cultural relations, conflict resolution and identity of modern marriage and family. Her best-selling and award-winning book, Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic, has been translated into 24 languages.

Why does great sex so often fade for couples who claim to love each other as much as ever?
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Esther Perel takes on these tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

In her twenty years of clinical experience, Perel has treated hundreds of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. They describe relationships that are open and loving, yet sexually dull. What is going on?

In this explosively original book, Perel explains that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for both men and women. Sexual excitement doesn’t always play by the rules of good citizenship. It is politically incorrect. It thrives on power plays, unfair advantages, and the space between self and other. More exciting, playful, even poetic sex is possible, but first we must kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our bedrooms.

While Mating in Captivity shows why the domestic realm can feel like a cage, Perel’s take on bedroom dynamics promises to liberate, enchant, and provoke. Flinging the doors open on erotic life and domesticity, she invites us to put the “X” back in sex.

My co-worker, Ken, today told me he thought I would love a show on IFC.  He couldn’t have been more RIGHT! Portlandia clips on YOUTUBE are hilarious! I know this show will be just the right amount of RIDICULOUS! Read about Portlandia here.

Starring: Fred A. who is hilarious…

Also Starring: Carrie Brownstein

Directing, and Co Creator: Jonathan Krisel

He is sorta f&*king hot? No? In his tee shirt, showing his pecs??!

This am I had the television on for Roxie and she was watching The Doctors. I gotta say, I sorta love Dr. Stork!  He seems very positive, fit and smart! Who doesn’t want all those qualities in a man?? I know I do!!

Forget bad boys, they are so over-rated, annoying, disrespectful losers! Get on the good guy train ya’ll– TOOT TOOT!  ha ha ah ha.. FOR REAL!

Ladies, if there is one thing I can share with you right now, It is:

NICE-SMART GUYS with BRAINS, and fit bodies are THE WAY TO GO! Go for the ones who are LIGHT and not DARK metaphorically- go for the ones who use their brains for something GOOD everyday, like saving lives, helping others, or making cold hard cash with their smarts!

Don’t chase that no good fool that gives himself to every woman who will have him! Let him go forever, because life is too short to allow yourself to be a commodity!

Go for someone like Travis Stork, MD. refreshing, clean, smart and cool… a dude helping others.. that is what I like to see!

PS My hands are in metaphorical praying position- and I am praying, Dear God, Let’s hope Travis never turns out to be a secret sexual deviant like Tiger Woods- GROSS! —That totally sucked!!!!  Tiger fucked his own shit up being dark and disgusting! Nothing reeks of low self esteem like a man secretly conducting deviant acts of shame. NOTHING…

I’m bummed that Demi broke and fell prey to pressure to focus externally other than inside herself. She is a fervent student of Kabbalah, and I wish the teachings sunk deeper. Most relationships based upon romantic feelings are destined to end. The ones that don’t- well those two people are built for the restrictions that come along with “commitment.” Some people are built that way and don’t feel that they are missing out on something, others, MOST, people realize that marriage and eternal commitment are constructed from fairy tale assumptions and mass consumption. I had to say that because it rhymes and also because it’s true. We are fed, via the media, this idealized lifestyle of marriage, children and material possessions that we think will make us worthy in society’s eyes. What a fucking joke!

Demi’s situation is unfortunate because she is by all means a beautiful woman and the fact that she let outside forces dictate otherwise, or perhaps came to conclusions untrue because Ashton isn’t able to fulfill his obligations of eternal fidelity. If I was able to talk to her, she would feel that confidence she should feel as a person and a mother. Unfortunately, she put all her cred. in being able to hold onto Ashton.

She needs to put her cred. into what she is inside and circle back to Kabbalah teachings and not forget that it is who she is that matters. Ashton fell weak, not her. She should feel better for it that it was his decision to act on his inability to keep his commitment and relish in the fact that she was able to remain loyal. That should give her stability, faith and comfort.

Demi, if you can hear me, don’t destroy your health over another human being and certainly do not allow outside forces to believe you are less than you are. Ashton’s decisions have nothing to do with who you are, they have everything to do with who he is.  Please do not take his decisions to give of himself to others personally, as you have nothing to do with it. Get better, stay beautiful, stay true. Focus on your self and finding peace from being as strong as you are. He already feels bad about how he handled himself. You don’t need to feel bad as a result of how he treats you because it is a direct reflection of how he feels and treats himself.

Peace Love and Strength to you. I am sorry that the media has made a dumb circus out of your pain. Rest, smile and rejuvenate. You have a lot of living to do and more peacefully at that. No more pressure, just be you, graceful, kind, sincere and loyal.