Dr. Henry Grayson's New Book- Coming out Early 2012!

In our earliest most developmental stages of childhood we are in a highly suggestible trance due to the abundance of time spent in uncontrollable theta brain wave patterns. These same wave patterns, while deeply relaxed are used to hypnotize and program suggestions.

We are downloading other’s negative thought patterns and beliefs around us by default and these are imprinted in our limbic system creating patterns of behavior and belief systems that we have no control over. These negative imprints combined with accumulated traumas, which also create negative self beliefs,  overload our immune system and set us up for greater chances for chronic illness, unhappiness, and often life threatening disease.

Through decades of research, teaching, and client work, Dr. Grayson has created a synergistic therapy system which combines new scientific research, psychoanalysis, ancient wisdom, quantum physics, spiritual thought and kinesiology that has been working wonders in his private practice.  Is it the success of his patients, and in training other mental health professionals that created this empowering “how to” manual to allow you to stop being a spectator in your life of illness and unhappiness to realize your unlimited potential to heal!

In his enthusiastic and yet comprehensive explanations, he takes you on an exciting journey to change your perspective and teaches you healing methods with downloadable video demonstrations, and printable pdf files for your step-by-step use to transform your thinking and greatly lessen your chances for debilitating illness.

You will receive clear guidance on how to recognize, identify and eliminate your unconscious barriers that block you from total health, healing and happiness.

Use Your Body to Heal Your Mind is an essential manual for anyone who wants to take control of their health, or continue to have abundant health, and for those who wish to be pro-active in the process of eliminating the chances of creating disease. Once you understand that you really do have infinite potential to position your self for total health, happiness and healing, your life becomes much more endurable and enjoyable.

GET READY, This book is FASCINATING!

Believe: to have a firm conviction as to the goodness, efficacy, or ability of something

While it’s difficult to remain true to your messages, intuition, and internal guidance, you must. You must also learn to not take other’s opinions or life decisions personally. I always wonder why people (including me) get into, “What did he or she mean by that text, that statement, that email?” It means whatever you deem it to mean. You operate from your own perspective and have your own way of interpreting things and whatever you wish to do with the message, you do.

I choose to just take it for what it is. However, many people talk in riddles and moment to moment the emotion  from the messenger can and will change and how you  interpret something will change and change. It depends on your mood, confidence, and what is occurring in your life at the moment. We can all question our intentions if we think something to death, but don’t. Flow without expectations, always believe in your ability to come through things with your inner most conviction.

Having read Krishnamurti since the 80s, I believe he has influenced me greatly in the way I percieve and behave. Strong reliance on the self is imperative. We all sequester other’s opinions because we like different perspectives, however, in the end, you must do what is true to your being, or say whatever it is that is true to your being.  If you aren’t ‘being” you are not giving the world your presence or gift. (no pun intended).

Working with Dr. Graysonputs me in touch with some of the most innovative minds in science, psychology, ancient wisdom, and philosophy. It is no accident that I am privy to these people, teachings, and writings. Just when I may be thinking of something that has occurred in my life, or in a relationship, I magically get a message in my writing for Henry, or in listening to, doing research for or booking a radio show guest for dialogue with him, or editing material, shooting videos, editing videos, or in conversation with Dr. Grayson.

Look and read messages from people just as they are. Don’t be paranoid, because that is exhausting, just trust in what it is that you feel as you read it, because how you feel is your connection to the moment. Try not to attach too much importance to it because the only thing that is truly important is how you feel about your self, and how you assert that energy in the world. People will say things,  and do things all day long, they are fleeting moments of emotion and drive.

The only thing you can do in your life to pursue peace is to stand up for what you believe in, know what it is that you believe in ,and don’t take shit personally. Because everything everyone says or does is their reaction to life given what they are working with in terms of  “survival”. They feel they need to do or say whatever it is to survive whatever it is their perception is of what is happening. It never has anything to do with you. Confusing I know– but we all behave with whatever conscious or unconscious mechanisms we have in place to cope.

The best thing you can do is believe that people are better, because once you feel that the world is shit, you spiral. You become depressed, hopeless and reside in victimhood. Believe me when I say, I am of a very angelic heart, however, I will stand my ground, and I will let you know how I feel about right and wrong, MY RIGHT AND WRONG… I always like to say, “there is a fine line between spirituality and being a doormat.” I straddle that line beautifully. It has taken a lot of work… you can retain your light without being overly saccharine and totally boring, trust me. Just believe is what I say, because what you put out there in belief, will more than likely manifest, maybe not immediately, but eventually. If it is belief in a person who keeps failing, keep believing, because the more you believe, the more they will, and the more likely they will have the opportunity to achieve peace and make a difference.  

Sit down, fucking breathe, let go, and do what it is you want to do to feel quiet, peaceful, and have your mind to your self. Don’t expend it on others, and expectations. Expend it on yourself- get creative, get pleased that all you are doing is focusing on what you need to accomplish for you to be pleased. Don’t focus on how other’s perceive you, don’t focus on what you need or want from others. Focus on what you want for your self. Whomever makes an appearance in your life will, the quieter you are, the less you do, the more you get.

R.E.D.

One of my absolute most favorite people on the planet, Rebecca Dolber, makes jewelry. It’s not  fluffy, ordinary stuff that every- day girls wear. It is earthy, aware, and worldly. She travels extensively globally to obtain eclectic little charms, beads, and little details that make her pieces distinctly original.

When you see her at craft shows, her tent is always bustling with people thinking, deciding, trying on and creating their own pieces that Rebecca puts together right before their eyes.

The Grove Stand at a Craft Show

What is wonderful about this process is that it involves two people. The artisan, Rebecca, and the client, who picks out precisely what they want. Rebecca artfully puts it together so it makes sense aesthetically and the client loves it because it reflects who they are.

Notice the message- the word- "evolve"

The charms and add ables are in the hundreds- and the dog tags, which I personally love and have bought for personal friends, because you can imprint a word that is meaningful to you and wear it as a reminder of who you are or who you want to be.

me and my arrow...

Thing is … She is ethereal, earthy, honest, raw and such a kind person. She has an ability to reach deep inside of you, if she chooses, and brings out the quiter, easier parts of who you already are and make you think just a little bit more.  She is comfortable in her skin, lovely, and so easy to be around. Rebecca is the true meaning of “Indie.” She is an independent spirit who lives life on her terms, much like I do, and I write this because I wear a piece of her, and a piece of me everyday, as I reach for my bracelets, necklaces or ring. I am reminded of what a gentle, uplifting and poetic spirit she truly is and how I wish to be and am in this life time.

 go here: http://www.etsy.com/shop/thegrovestand - you will be glad you did.

my personal daily wear... from R.E.D. The Grove Stand

message....blue...

As I drove to work this morning I was thinking about the “haves” and the “have nots” as people are titling themselves who are “protesting”. It is all a matter of perception in terms of what you “have” and don’t “have”. I am quite surprised about this protest due to the recent insurgence of spirituality and the priority ”non-focus” on material possessions. What is it exactly that the “haves” have that the “have nots” want? If it is employment, or a college education, there are plenty of libraries that are “free” to check out books and take an active approach to learning a new skill or way of thinking that might be holding one back from being attractive to a potential employer. The more we learn, the better our chances are for a productive and peaceful existence. Personal responsibility and choices are key here in terms of viewing this “historical protest.” It is simply all about choices, drive, motivation and pride in oneself and what someone personally deems important. Why do people compare themselves to others instead of focusing on oneself? Better yet, how can one compare oneself to anyone else when we are all our own being? Why is it ok to hold against someone their decision to work in a bank, or in a big company? Isn’t that a personal decision? Why does a person who decides to take that avenue of life be in the line of fire from people who don’t choose to take that road in their life? You see, in life, we all have personal decisions to make, and they are our very own, no one else’s. As I see it, no one has a right to deem someone’s choices right or wrong unless someone is getting physically harmed as a result of a decision a total stranger has made.

We all have the right to either buy products made with chemicals or we don’t. No one has a knife to our throats and we are the architect of our own destiny. Are we dependant on employers to make a living? No, we can start our own companies. I have my own side business, and I enjoy it. Am I more skilled than the average bear, probably not, but I am not lazy and I like to have some say in my life. I like to exercise power over myself and my decisions, and I am not sure why people don’t feel that they have the same right.

The world needs a mind shift and fast. Nothing good comes easy. Easy is not fun, nor do you learn from it. You are in charge of your decisions, addict or not addict, food choices, skill choices, job choices, etc. Somehow along the way we have all become disabled, and lazy. We think everyone else is responsible for our personal choices. We think somehow that others are responsible for us! How did this happen? After reaching adulthood, we all need to realize that WE create our own lives. This country needs an inspiration injection! They need to turn off Maury Povich, Jerry Springer, The Kardashians and Montel and get their asses into a library and read a book! People need to study more, and learn new ways of thinking, perceiving, and obtain diverse skill sets to be able to care for themselves and the children THEY DECIDED to bear. I do not believe in other people holding the bag for other’s bad choices, nor will I ever.

You see I am an OPTIMIST! I believe in people’s abilities to succeed, to be happy and to learn. I don’t believe in enabling, disabling, and crippling by handing over things just because they scream the loudest. You, I and everyone know that when you are handed things, you don’t appreciate and or value them. They are meaningless because you haven’t earned it. It is high time that people stop looking at others to pull them out of the mess that they have chosen for their lives! As far as I am concerned, the people protesting should be embarrassed that they don’t think enough of themselves to be able to handle their own lives! That is the real shame in all of this. They need to get their asses to the library and take some responsibility for where they are in life- and start today!

In wildlife communities there are animals who are smarter, stronger, etc, and thank god for them because they give others inspiration. If they don’t serve as an inspiration, big deal, let them live they way they wish. Fortunate, unfortunate, etc. that is all a figment of our own imaginations. Just look at Bruce Lipton’s, The Biology of Belief. We are not powerless unless we think we are. We are not opressed unless we think we are. It is all in your mind.

If people would focus on being positive and loving toward themselves, they would have a whole universe open up to them of possibilities. It’s call the Law of Attraction people! Please wake up, and focus on the right things, YOUR SELVES! If you do that, I promise your life will improve tenfold. You will attain endless peace if you wake up and view others and situations positively. If you actually do some work on yourself you will find that your frame of mind will improve as will other’s perceptions of you as well.

I wish for the protesters peace, positivity and introspection because the minute they turn the focus on themselves, and decide what it is they wish to do with their lives, the happier they will become. The “haves” is all an illusion- you don’t know how those people feel! They are no better than the “have nots”. The peaceful are the luckiest alive! Whether or not they “have” something, whatever it is that the “have nots” want is irrelevant. I hope people see that someday! Our world is a reflection of exactly what we feel about ourselves, exactly how much work we do on ourselves and how positively we view others! It is truly that simple. I work in a Wall Street firm, and not one day do I feel that I don’t “have” something the partners “have” because I don’t really give a shit. I have peace, and the want to work! I love to work, and it isn’t even necessarily for the money, it is for the sense of PURPOSE.  That is the secret to contentment. PURPOSE…

People need to get more intellectual and stop accepting the lack of culture the American media is shoving down their throat. Everyone has a choice, I don’t care who you are! EVERYONE has choices everyday and either they will serve you well or not. That donut, that drink, that joint, that cigarette, that anger, that sadness, it is all YOUR CHOICE. When you finally get it, your life will become that much better! Inequality is all our own insecurity. I don’t have a feeling of inequality because I happen to invest in myself. I read, and I fill my head with different ways of thinking and being. I work at life. Everyone needs to do the same. Besides, we all know, if you did the work, that happiness does not derive from ANYTHING EXTERNAL, given the fact that self destructive behavior occurs in the “rich” and the “poor.”

Oh, and speaking of material possessions- what the heck are they? They are things created by people, and the creators describe the products a certain way to convince and manipulate you into thinking that by owning this item you make a statement about “who you are”.. isn’t it all totally ludicrous? People put together a product, using other products- assign a value (price)  and meaning (marketing) to it and then people get mad if others buy it and they don’t or can’t! Hilarious… do you see the insanity yet? Are you all done being taken by the media yet?

Last night as I was in my home alone for the first time after losing my brother to an untimely death, I kept quiet. I was waiting for some universal wisdom to get me through the night peacefully. I was quietly waiting for answers, for explanations, and for meaning. I got one clear message, “Some People Are Just Not Long for This World.” That was the message that kept coming through loud and clear to me. I thought on it deeply and for some explanation.

I thought about the differences in many people in how these choose to live their lives. What they choose to do with their time, put into their bodies, how they chose to nourish or not nourish themselves spiritually, physically, emotionally. I thought about Darwinism, and about spirituality. I came to these conclusions:

People will do what they choose to do personally for their journey in life. No one can personalize other’s decisions to care or not care totally for themselves.  The choices people make are not a reflection of how they feel about you, but how they feel about themselves. An army can’t save anyone who doesn’t want to save themselves. I thought about Michael Jackson and how he had legions of adoration from millions of people, and how that (so much love was shown to him through attendance of his concerts, tears, etc) couldn’t even save him from himself and his perceived pain.

I thought about how other’s who hurt themselves with bad choices don’t want to harm others with their personal decisions, but they do by default because other people will love them no matter how much they don’t love themselves and will be hurt directly by their decisions. I also thought about how people need to put things into perspective about their own decisions and they choose to live or not live based upon the pain they feel with the loss of someone significant. The demarcations that are drawn as a result can make or break you.

In life, there is death, there is suffering and that is unavoidable and how you handle it all is of utmost importance. It is essential that you don’t falter, crumble, and harm your own health when grieving. I have decided to take this time to become better, stronger, healthier, and wiser. I will honor my brother’s memory with vibrant health, happiness and to be as loving as he and I have always been. I wish for everyone the ability to take charge of the wonderful gift called LIFE. To be as productive, positive and loving as possible to themselves and others.

We all have moments of weaknesses, but may they be fewer and fewer as we learn our personal lessons. May we all be gentler and kinder to ourselves, so that the people who love us can have us around for a long time and so that we can live a long time and reach our fullest potential for love, health and happiness.

May we all put out our cigarettes and choose joy today instead of pain. May we all put on sneakers and hit the pavement to become stronger physically, and mentally. May we all nourish our bodies with vegetables and fruit and supplements so that we can live our lives fully, completely and with strength. May we all stop sabotaging ourselves and see what life gives us every day. The ability to walk, climb and laugh are true gifts. May we all create physical vitality for ourselves so that we can do anything it is we dream of doing.  We need to be more careful with ourselves for we have a responsibility to those we include in our lives to be happy ourselves. The more joyful we are, the happier others become around us. We need to become more self reliant and not burden other’s with our personal pain.

We need to stop, look and listen, and be more quiet, and aware of ourselves and how we assert ourselves in the world because it effects others and ourselves. We need to smile at strangers and talk with them. I choose to not be a victim, to not feel sorry for myself, for I am grateful that I have a choice to make better decisions, and to love myself because everyone who knows me will be better off for it, as well as I.

I am stronger for smiling, and giving myself the gift of good health. I will make even more of a commitment to be the best person I can be for my friends, family and everyone who cares for me because I don’t want to hurt anyone by my personal actions towards myself.

I will hold my brother in my memory as someone who made people laugh and smile but I will also learn from his early departure to nuture my body and my mind, and every step I take towards perfect health will be in honor of him, myself and those I love and who love me. I promise to try to be here as long as I can with a smile and a hug and warmth.

Lastly, I will let you all know, who know me and love me, I choose to not tolerate needless complaining and suffering. For the rest of my life, I will be of support to any of you who need me but I will not aid and abet needless suffering. I will not participate in needless pain to myself or others. Be patient with me because I am not going to sit and talk about how hard life is because to me, I choose to love life, and that is what I am going to tell you if you call me to tell me how shitty it is. I am going to rise higher than ever before and give my body and mind the love it needs to be there in a positive way. Life kicks major ass, and every challenge it throws my way is a lesson, a choice, and I choose to be completely responsible for how I respond to it.

Thank you all of you for your kindness, and may you find one sentence in here to resonate and give you strength today to be the best fucking person you could ever be. It is all about choices! I will juice my produce and love every ounce, I will go to the gym and love every drop of sweat I emit and know that I am doing all that I can for me and everyone around me. No more self sabotage. FUCK THAT SHIT! I choose Life, and I choose to be SUPER MAN.. you better believe that!

Hard work is the best, trying hard at life is the best, and physical exercise will make you feel like you can do anything you could ever want or dream. Be productive, organize your self, organize your life for happiness. Clean up, shape up and nourish your body for it will make your life all that more exciting….

I’ve been watching Gangaji on and off for about 15 years now. I have been staying with a friend until my power comes on from the hurricane. I was channel surfing, and came upon my girl, Gangaji, who I haven’t watched in a long, long time. The night before I watched Carole Lombard films from the 30s; both unusual for me as of late.  But anyway, Gangaji is this peaceful woman who talks quietly about the importance of knowing the “self”.

“Need nothing and then see what happens.”
— Gangaji

“We have tried everything to get rid of suffering. We have gone everywhere to get rid of suffering. We have bought everything to get rid of it. We have ingested everything to get rid of it. Finally, when one has tried enought, there arises the possibility of spiritual maturity with the willingness to stop the futile attempt to get rid of it and, instead, to actually experience suffering. In that momentous instant, there is the realization of that which is beyond suffering, of that which is untouched by suffering. There is the realization of who one truly is.”
-Gangaji”

“Fufillment has nothing to do with circumstances.”
— Gangaji

From her web site: Gangaji shares a simple message-This is an invitation to shift your allegiance from the activities of your mind to the eternal presence of your being.

Born in Texas in 1942, Gangaji grew up in Mississippi. After graduating from the University of Mississippi in 1964, she married and had a daughter. In 1972, she moved to San Francisco where she began exploring deeper levels of her being. She took Bodhisattva vows, practiced Zen and Vipassana meditation, helped run a Tibetan Buddhist Meditation Center, and had a career as an acupuncturist in the San Francisco Bay area.

Despite her successes, Gangaji continued to experience a deep and persistent longing for fulfillment. She pursued many paths to change her life including relationship, motherhood, political activism, career, and spiritual practice, but even the greatest of her successes ultimately came up short. In the wake of her disillusionment, she made a final prayer for true help. In 1990, the answer to her prayer came unexpectedly, taking her to India and to the meeting that would change everything. There on the banks of the river Ganga, she met Sri H.W.L. Poonja, also known as Papaji, who opened the floodgates of self-recognition. In this meeting, Gangaji’s personal story of suffering ended and the promise of a true life began to flower and unfold.

Today, Gangaji travels the world speaking to seekers from all walks of life. A teacher and author, she shares her direct experience of the essential message she received from Papaji and offers it to all who want to discover a true and lasting fulfillment. Through her life and words, she powerfully articulates how it is really possible to discover the truth of who you are and to be true to that discovery.

We invite you to read The End of All Excuses by Gangaji an in-depth article by Gangaji about her spiritual path and essential experiences.

Detox Your Life: A great self affirmation meditation is included, A self hypnosis guide, and the author is Glenn Harrold!

Change Your Life: A series of writings about spiritual acceleration, speed learning, self development, planning your future, attitude, etc.

Silva Meditations: Includes a Good Morning Meditation, Good Night Meditation, Energy Booster Meditation, Centering Exercise

Spiritual Healing: Includes Journey Into the Soul, Healing Meditation, and information on Quantum Jumping (The American Monk)

Inner Wisdom:Includes a mediation for Inner Wisdom, A self hypnosis EBook, and a connection to download a bunch of other specialized apps according to what you desire to work on personally within yourself like: Instant Sleep, Deep Relaxation, Lose Weight, Instant Flying. It also includes IPad Apps for Exercise, Super Self Confidence Hypnosis, Lose Weight Now, Sleep Well Tonight, Think Positively, etc.

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I did a couple meditations last night as I layed down  in bed ready to fall asleep. I slept very well. If you think about it, your body is always in response mode to situations forced upon you through life. Your body breaks down with stress. Stress is completely unavoidable unless you can train your response system. You cannot train your response system without first doing the work on your self.

Our body needs real rest which recharges us. Some of us never truly relax and or never settle into a total state of full body relaxation without the use of a substance. That isn’t helping the body necessarily because your liver has to filter the substance, and it is a false sense of total relaxation.

Mediation is like turning the body OFF for a little while. Checking out, if you will and sending messages to your cells, organs and mind. It is a great way to reprogram your self for peace, change and success. It isn’t boring to be peaceful, as it allows you to totally consume life and experience things in a fuller sense because you are calmer and you can process information better. You miss less, and your brain is more efficient.

It is very difficult to really meditate and sometimes it can take years to quiet your mind completely. It is a discipline that isn’t convenient. Before, I had to put a cd in my computer, down load it to Itunes, then load it on my ipod, then listen to it. Too many steps! With iPhone applications, you can download these programs quickly, take them with you, and use it through out the day! The recordings are of great quality as well!

Each time you meditate you are training your self to be better, calmer, smarter, more confident and are better equipped to handle life’s challenges and less apt to fall prey to DIS-EASE. With every year of regular daily meditation, you take one physical year off your appearance.

We all think we have no time, or things aren’t convenient or fast enough. We have become a lazy society whereby getting impatient if our Internet connection isn’t lightening fast. You need to slow your self down to really experience things and to know your self and how you are feeling in your body and mind. It isn’t asking too much of your self to put on your ear buds, and listen to a meditation as you lay in bed and let it sink into your unconscious.

It is a far way more productive way to spend time then to hang on the phone listening to someone else’s problems, which we all get stuck doing. I even can be the one talking about something too! So make the switch. Talk less and meditate more. See what your life experience becomes and how it changes you.

Commit to your self and your health, mental and physical. Become the best person you can be. Life becomes much sweeter when you pay attention to YOU more than OTHERS. Because after all it is ONLY YOU that can CREATE the LIFE you WANT and DESIRE! I don’t know about you, but I know I want to spend my time feeling relaxed, confident and laughing. Being Light and Airy, and content and not dependent on others for my self worth.

I love the fact that in every store they play pandora or sattelite, and every song reminds me of the 80s, one of my favorite era in terms of music! Why is it that all these bands are ringing so 80s? So “New Order-esque”, etc? I love it, makes me feel super light and happy to be alive. Music is all important, it is the background to my “movie” (life).

Honestly, I have been the happiest I have ever been in my life these last 5 months! What can I attribute it to? I wonder… Nothing in particular but a great attitude. I used to say to Dr. Grayson, “How can someone be spiritual all the time? Won’t they be totally boring?” He would say, “No Sandra, it always feels good.” I am understanding more and more of what he is saying! Spiritual = Happy. Spiritual = a great outlook on life. I guess I do have all my needs met. I have people I can count on, I have a safe, and fun place to live (alone is key!), and I am excited all the time about being creative, although I don’t have time to execute all the ideas in my head, I am constantly thinking about sharing my ideas and visions. I love how my unconditional love for others makes me feel so alive and happy, even if it isn’t returned! Big lesson here, even if you hold love in your heart for someone and they don’t exactly express it back, focus on how loving makes you feel! It feels sooooo good!

Yesterday the simple act of sleeping late to re-charge my body, then strolling down Main Street in Westport to grab some sustenance was totally enjoyable! The simplest things amaze and thrill me. I must have been emitting some seriously charged energy because everyone who passed said “hello” and at Oscar’s where I got my food on, they were super flirty and chatty! I got THE BEST sandwich EVER as well.

My friend Janet told me that her 88 year old mother visited from Hawaii and showed me pictures of her. She is so beautiful at 88. Janet said she is very happy and notices simple things. She said her mom mentioned the cool pattern that the telephone cord made! HA HA HA. Janet then said, “It’s almost like she is tripping all the time.” I laughed and said wow, I notice little things all the time. I hope it translates to total beauty inside and out forever for me too!

I am so grateful to be alive and to feel inspired, motivated, pleased, peaceful and to be learning all the time! Yesterday, my friend said to me that he felt I judged him. I had no idea! We discovered that it meant that he felt criticized. I told him that it is imperative that he call me out on it immediately when it is happening so that I know what he is talking about. This is an important lesson for me to learn! I think if we grow up with a critical eye, we can emulate it unknowingly and it becomes part of how we communicate our thoughts about others to others. I like to point out things I see in others and I appreciate it when they do the same for me. However, some people feel differently and it is important that we are mindful of how we come off to that person, especially if we care about them.

I told him that I felt I did it because I care about him so much. He didn’t understand and thought that was a crazy thing to say. I tried to explain that I must be pointing things out because I want him to be better, or that I care. But in the grand scheme of things, I can see it from his point of view clearly. It isn’t my place to point things out, it is better for me to just “be” in his presence and not worry about whether or not his behavior is productive or not. That is a big lesson for all of us to learn.

We must all stop trying to describe other’s behavior to them and just accept it. It is who they are. Even if we feel it is unproductive, it is not our place to determine that, ever. They are having their experience and we must allow them to. We must abstain from our vision and opinion about others because we truly never ever know if we are correct in our assumptions. It is also a big waste of our personal time. We should be focused on ourselves and what makes us happy.

Such a simple thing, is yet so profound. I am excited to be awakened to this aspect of myself and to change it! Afterall, the most exciting part about life  is our ability to wake up and be conscious, be different, and to form new habits.  My new habit will be to stop examining so much and just experience what is in front of me and accept it, surrender to it and to enjoy it for it’s difference from me.

I love me some shows whereby the creators assist in a dork transformation. First of all let me make it clear that I consider my self a DORK of the millionth degree!

• Dorks ARE the real meaning of cool
• Dorks have a lot to teach you
• Dorks are smart
• Dorks are curious
• Dorks are good people
• Dorks have the secret to happiness, after one accepts that they are a dork and embraces it
• Dorks have the ability to be themselves unequivocally, and eventually realize that that is what makes them special
• Dorks Rock The House
• Dorks have a great vocabulary
• Dorks make hilarious jokes

Ok, now that we have that out of the way, I want you all to realize that dorks make the world go round. The whole cast of Saturday Night Live are dorks, usually the directors, the producers and the writers of great film, television and books are dorks! Dorks have ideas and have a continual need to manifest them!

The opposite of Dork is: unmotivated, no idea having, violent people who don’t care to better themselves at all. They think they are cool because they are bullies, tough guys, morons, doofus’ who don’t believe that a great education will get them anywhere. They try to emulate that “head” person in high school and don’t ever graduate from that sense of weirdness that makes them scary to be around and to experience. The non-dork would be the people who think it is cool to intimidate, scare and make you feel bad! I honestly cannot believe in this day and age that they still exist, but they do! Just turn on Bravo and watch Mob Wives. These are people stuck in 6th grade and it is so scary to me that people operate from this lower form of consciousness at an adult age!

Non dorks are also rappers trying to scare others, shoot others, and rap consistently about retarded things like banging girls, drinking booze and smoking weed. Are you kidding me? As an adult, are you really rhyming and stealing about shit like that? Remember the old days when rappers were clever, and rapped about dance moves, and having fun? They had the secret to happiness and to life- DO NOT TAKE YOURSELF SO SERIOUSLY YO! ARE YOU KIDDING ME WITH THE GANGSTER shit like you are living this life whereby you think it is COOL to abuse, scare, and hurt someone?! Oh lord. Ordinary kids who think they are too cool and who have a bad attitude cling to this shit and then try to act it out! HILARIOUS! Dorks would NEVER DO THAT because in their sheer dorkness they accept who they are and RUN WITH IT. Dorks become fashion designers, movie producers, writers and CHANGERS OF SOCIETY for the better!

Through out my life I have mentored a many young people and they will tell you today how I always told them it is POSSIBLE TO BE SMART and like METALLICA, PANTERA, RAP and Ozzie. Just don’t lose sight of the importance of being unique, and confident and totally curious! I always wanted them to understand that the “tough” kids were the worst thing that you could get involved with! They were the ones hurting, and inflicting pain on others! They were sure to inflict pain on you if you let them!

If there is one MAJOR lesson in life to learn it is that the DIFFERENT kids, the smart kids, the good kids are the most fun! They will accept you for who you are, not try to change you, or hurt you, or enforce peer pressure. They are generally happy go lucky kids who have interests and will always be ready to do something fun, something that doesn’t involve drugs, and illegal behavior which will only bring you trouble!

Life is so much more fun straight, and doing what it is that you love! If you have a need to get high and escape, you have things you don’t want to deal with. Dorks don’t usually need to do that. So this whole outdated point of view that cool is cool and dorks are dork is whack! That never was the case! If you consider yourself overly cool, you definitely will find yourself in trouble down the road in life because you will make bad choices, bring bad people into your life and go down a road that will do nothing but depress you and waste a lot of precious time!

Next time you see a person totally being mean about someone else, drunk, stoned, or angry, just walk the other way, and know they aren’t happy and they definitely aren’t someone you want to have around. They aren’t cool, they are in pain, and want to inflict it on others.

I cannot believe that our society still thinks being NICE is a weakness and in romantic relationships the guy always runs after what he cannot have, and the girl who is a total bitch! What does that say about him and his evolution up until now? It says he is hurting and wants to be mired in pain forever, and wants to continually punish himself. So ladies, and gents, next time you find yourself on a wild goose chase towards someone who doesn’t treat you with kindness, respect and with love, CHECK YOURSELF BEFORE YOU WRECK YOURSELF. You just aren’t ready to date right now because obviously you aren’t seeking out a DORK, you are seeking out a LOSER!

SO listen up, and listen good- DORK IS IN, dork has always been in and don’t settle for someone who thinks they are cool because that usually means a dirty messy life full of violence, drugs, jobs (no career), and a string of bad relationships with bad people and an even more terrible family! RUN TO THE HILLS IRON MAIDEN STYLE!

Remember, get an education, do what it is that you love and you will never need to delve into the filthy underworld of drugs, low self esteem and CHRONIC UNDER ACHIEVEMENT!

With all that being said ALL HAIL THE DORKS YA’LL! and watch “MADE” on MTV and go to www.girlsgoingplaces.com. This am while sewing I watched MADE on MTV and it featured this girl who wanted to learn to wake board. It was fun to watch because she was a sweet girl but felt like an outsider but when she learned to SHRED she became more confident and went on to assert herself and ask out her crush who was a rad wake boarder! She baked cookies for him and had a pet lamb. I love that! I love that she was different enough to have a lamb for a pet, that in my book makes her cool! Why just sit and hang around with a bunch of lame ass kids who think they are cool and waste your life trying to BE LIKE THEM? What a nightmare, if you ask me. She retained her inner dork and became more confident, but thank god she didnt’ try to totally conform to be ordinary! YUCK, that would SUCK!