This am I was having my daily am call with my mom, whom I visited this weekend and I uncovered a real human phenomena in an ephemeral moment.  Ever have this person in your life of the other gender who you see in a potentiality sort of way, and they don’t see themselves in the same way?

I think we all do that, don’t we? We project, but also see other’s potential so much more than perhaps even they do. It is so strange to me that we cannot see ourselves entirely due to our internal chatter which can tell us, we aren’t as good as we think, or we cannot do something, or we operate from some familial manner in which was instilled by a family trend, or we absorb the limitations of our surroundings. Inherent in this awakening that I believe some people have these  awesome qualities, this potential, per say, but they get stuck in this old way of being, thinking and settling which prevents them from stepping into the position of moving forward, reaching out, and embracing that which is possible, who they are, well, as I see them, and if only they could see themselves that way.  It is frustrating to have these thought processes because while they are inspiring,  intellectual and clarifying for me, the people that could be in question still remain where they are at the moment, in their inertia, their zone of adequate activity.

Although this isn’t a huge revelation, because we all do it, it was instrumental in me to understand a particular moment of thought. However now that is is revealed, now is it time to move on and let it be the way it is? Is it important to allow others to grow at their own rate or is it prudent to assist them in some way to see something different for themselves? A good question, indeed.

The CD that makes me think... an question!~

My friend, Rebecca Dolber, who happens to make the most excellent jewelery, sent me this CD, The intro to The Option Method because she knows I am a seeker of information that will improve and enhance my experience here– in my life! She said her aunt lived with this interesting Happiness Philosopher, well.. that is what I am choosing to title him- Bruce Di Marsico and that her aunt has introduced her to his teachings and what a profound effect it has had on her life recently in terms of happiness and satisfaction.

Change your beliefs and change your life. The Option Method questions the beliefs that cause unhappiness, allowing for a profound and instantaneous transformation.

“Unhappiness happens in the dark, it happens in the half light of reason. The problem is that you think you know that you have to be unhappy. I suggest that it’s questionable. What if what you are feeling is just the result of a belief you have?”
– Bruce Di Marsico, creator of the Option Method and author of Unlock Your Happiness With Five Simple Questions: The Option Method

End your pursuit of happiness. Be happier now using the Option Method’s powerful Five Questions.

“You have spent a lifetime acquiring and cultivating beliefs, which you never realized before, are actually contrary to the wisdom within you.”
– Deborah Mendel, author of Be Happier Now: Your Personal Roadmap to a Life of Joy and Happiness — The Option Method Workbook

http://mashable.com/2010/06/05/iphone-apps-self-help/

Gratitude Journal- http://happytapper.com/gratitude-journal/

The app keeps your daily bulleted list protected by passcode, and you can flip through the days, e-mail your list, and add photos. There’s also a function that allows you to rate how you’re feeling so you can record your life improving as you complete the exercise.

Price: .99

The Habit Factor- http://itunes.apple.com/us/app/the-habit-factor-daily-habits/id316925674?mt=8

The app tracks what percentage of your habits you are maintaining, thus creating the occasion to celebrate (or mourn) your progress. Try tracking one goal first using the free Habit Factor Lite, which allows you up to three active habits, before springing for full version.

Price: $6.99 or limited free version

IZEN Garden-http://www.random-ideas.net/Software/iZenGarden/-

While raking around your garden, you can choose between seashells, stones, leaves, and more than 100 other objects to add to the design. Decide if you prefer the sound of ocean waves or forest life in the background, add fluttering butterflies, or change the color of the sand. When you’re done, you can set your garden design to your wallpaper or share the Zen you’ve achieved through e-mail, Facebook(), or Twitter(). iZen Garden Lite is also an excellent free option for those who can live with just 10 stones and one color of sand.

Price: $2.99 or limited free version

Breakkup- http://breakkup.com/

When your friends can’t relate to your relationship issues, or are just tired of hearing about them, it’s nice to be able to turn to complete strangers who aren’t regulars at your favorite watering hole. BreakkUp lets you submit your relationship issues and posts them on a “latest drama” list that the 20,815 other registered users can access via the web or the app. The community can then respond with advice and vote your drama up or down in importance.

Price: Free

myinstantcoach- http://www.myinstantcoach.com/

As long as your life dilemma fits into one of the 75 options that myinstantCOACH has laid out, this app can give you the crucial advice you need to make big decisions. Simply choose the category where you need coaching: Relationships, finance, career, or well being. Then select the life scenario that best matches your own, like “I hate my boss.”

MyinstantCOACH will give you the lowdown on your situation, offer specific actions you can take to improve your problem, and allow you to set up reminders that check in on your progress.

Price: Free

Livehappy- http://itunes.apple.com/us/app/live-happy/id317887266?mt=8

LiveHappy puts the exercises that University of California Riverside professor Sonja Lyubomirsky suggests in her book, The How of Happiness, into app form. Her theory is that by engaging in certain activities on a daily basis, anyone can change his or her mindset. Some of these app activities include evaluating goals, keeping track of happy days, keeping a gratitude journal, thanking people directly, and remembering random acts of kindness. The app also includes a personality analysis and science of happiness content.

Price: $0.99

MyThoughts+- http://itunes.apple.com/us/app/mythoughts/id296461352?mt=8

The power of positive thinking has become a mantra for many self-help books. Though psychologists are still debating its merits in relation to overall well being, most other people find it hard to argue against looking on the bright side.

This app keeps positive thoughts flowing in accordance with which category you select. The font, transitions, and background are all customizable, and users can add their own positive affirmations to the collection of 10,000 thoughts, but it’s hard to top phrases like, “Unlimited abundance and prosperity radiate through me, creating infinite opportunities in all areas of my life.” The free version contains 100 different affirmations.

Price: $1.99 or free version

istress- http://www.psiappsinc.com/iphone-applications-istress.html

This app provides several stress management activities including reading an inspirational poem, pondering encouraging quotes, laughing at “stress jokes,” and rating your feelings. There’s also a “reframe thoughts” function that aims to help you to identify and change negative thoughts with a relaxation exercise.

I personally prefer the iShatter approach to stress relief, where $0.99 allows you to simulate the destruction of your screen, various glass objects, or a photo of your choice.

Price: $0.99

More Iphone Resources by the “MASTER” Mashable!

- Top 10 iPhone Apps for TV Fanatics
- 5 Fantastic Free iPhone E-book Reader Apps
- 10 Great iPhone Apps for Growing a Garden
- 10 Essential iPhone Apps for Runners
- 10 Best iPhone Apps for Dog Lovers

I had this Italian man of about 65 highlight my hair in Stamford in the beginning of the summer. I was referred to him by a woman who is attractive, mature and had coolish hair. The man, with a pierced ear, and I had a deep talk about his wife and her passing and how he deals with it on a daily basis. He had this wall paper in his shop which was reminiscent of a grandmother’s attic and I said, “That is an interesting choice for wallpaper.” It had wagon wheels and doll images on it and I was being sort of facetious.

He replied, “My wife chose it years ago.” and then he pointed out the doll collection across the shop.

I was alarmed due to the inadequate and outdated choice of interior decoration. However, I had this innate ability to connect regardless of my immediate, secretive, and silent paranoia about his ability to do a “good” job on my hair given his lack of decorative acumen.  Each time I made a point in which he agreed with, he would say, “Thank You.” He would pause right before he said it and a bit afterwards. You ever meet someone who says, “Thank You” each time you say something meaningful to them? It is hilarious and almost annoying.

This older and dowdy woman walked in for color, and she had a distinct voice, almost like a deep, deaf like tone, but she clearly heard well. I thought, I know this woman from somewhere. I initially was annoyed by her presence because she made innocuous comments repeatedly and she bored me to death. She was interjecting commentary unrelated to our conversation about the unknown and death, which was far more interesting than, “I had to take my elderly father to the hospital today because he got into a car accident.” She also spoke of things around her house which required attending to. YAWN. I wanted to belt out, “SHUT the EFF UP Lady, you are harshing my buzz over here.” We are talking about some serious shit. I then realized that I was being negative and a selfish conversation hog and went inside my consciousness and created a shift of energy. I intentionally focused on not being a judgemental bitch. We all proceeded to converse in a lively manner. All the while, I am thinking, “What am I doing here, Who are these people, and where are the television cameras because I couldn’t be more out of place, I couldn’t be talking to weirder people, and I am sitting here with a head full of foils unable to escape this ordinary nightmare which ironically turned out to be a rather lynchian experience.

I figured out how to place this “woman” and discovered that she temped in an office where I worked in finance in Greenwich. It was amazing to me that I could make the switch in my head from elitist cool to hey, I am like you and you and you and you… ha ha ha. I wound up giving her a pep talk, because she had been out of work for a long time. I was explaining that today’s world is affording opportunity for people to brand themselves, and to create a living out of doing what they love. I challenged her to go inside and to think about what it was that made her passionate and to figure out a way to make a living doing it. She often used the, “Thank You” term just as the “hair dresser” did and I found myself secretly annoyed but kept it underwraps rather skillfully.  I say hair dresser versus stylist because I clearly was in a time warp and stylist would not be appropriate given this man’s salon, demeanor and the environment.

Needless to say, I exited this salon, with cartoon metaphorical blue birds flying about my head in a whirling fashion

… and I say– I departed what could  have been a most ordinary and irritating experience with  kisses and hugs from both, the hairdresser and the woman as they both expressed that they felt they met me and saw me for a reason. And the hairdresser said, “You made me want to go out tonight, to go to a musical and I  will!”  He also shared that he hadn’t been out in years, but for some reason, he felt enlivened and was ready to go out and enjoy himself.  I got into my car and was sort of blown away and left thinking, My work is done here! HA HA HA… THANK YOU…

I have been working on the planning of this ground breaking conference for a bit now.  We are just about ready to work on the web site and print the mailer. The Association for Spirituality and Psychotherapy is hosting this congress. Dr. Henry Grayson is Chairing this event and the line up is stellar! Now, more than ever, this is an essential event due to the hyper sexuality of people.  People tend to abuse and misuse their sexuality and this event will illustrate how sexuality is meant to be expressed and how to have a fulfilling sex life without all the problems that arise typically due to internal struggles. I wanted to give you all a heads up so you can mark your calendars. The congress will be held at the Hotel Pennsylvania, in NYC.

• At this time of economic, political and ecological turmoil in the world, why a national congress on spiritual sexuality and sexual healing? What is most needed now in the world is a deeper sense of connection with who we really are, and a deeper sense of bonding with our families, friends and colleagues. For thousands of years many of the great spiritual traditions of our planet have pointed us in a particular direction– the realm of sacred sexuality.
•  But in our present culture sexuality is not an easy realm to explore. Sexuality is deeply misunderstood.  It is either laden with guilt and shame, the focus of wounding and abuse, commercialized and trivialized, or seen as an easy path to so-called enlightenment.
• The goal of enhanced pleasure in our lives is something we all can applaud.  But the great spiritual traditions point to something deeper- the possibility that sexuality can be the gateway to our deepest healing and spiritual maturation. 
• It is in this spirit that the Association for Spirituality and Psychotherapy is bringing together the nation’s experts in the exploration and teaching of spiritual sexuality and sexual healing.  Join us for this transformative weekend national congress to include: a mixture of exciting talks, gentle experiential work, movement and artistic performance, with the option of a third day of post-conference workshops that will afford us the opportunity to work in smaller groups with some of our presenters.  Together we will embark on a sacred adventure into the realm of our deepest maturation and healing. 

Conference Chairman: Henry Grayson, Ph.D.                   Co-Chairman: Kenneth Porter, M.D.

Line Up:

Presenters (in order of appearance)

Michael Mirdad, Ph.D.

Michael

Mirdad, Ph.D./ Exploring Spiritual Tantra 

Dr. MichaelMirdad, renowned Spiritual Teacher and Healer, is the best-selling author of An Introduction to Tantra and Sacred Sexuality and You’re Not Going Crazy . . . You’re Just Waking Up! Michaelhas conducted thousands of classes, lectures, and workshops on Intimacy, Spirituality, Relationships, and Healing. He is one of the few teachers in the western world with 30 years of tantric teaching and practice and is the founder of “Spiritual Tantra.” His vast knowledge and wisdom combined with his personal warmth, humor, and integrity has earned him the title of “A Teacher’s Teacher” and “A Healer’s Healer” from students, teachers, and authors around the world.

Jalaja Bonheim, Ph.D./ The Path of Sexual Priestess

Dr. Bonheim will show how the sexual priestess is not only a historical figure, but also an immensely powerful archetype that is presently resurfacing full force in the lives of contemporary women. When a woman begins to live from that center of power, she reconnects with a wisdom that is ancient, radically transformative, healing, joyous, and life-affirming. Jalaja herself was trained in Indiain the Tantric tradition of the Indian temple dancers. Today, she’ll help us understand what it means to walk the path of the priestess in the context of modern life, and how to do so with integrity, authenticity, and joy.

Author of four books, including Aphrodite’s Daughters: Women’s Sexual Stories and the Journey of the Soul and The Hunger for Ecstasy.  As the Founder and Director of the Institute for Circlework, she leads workshops and trainings for women in the US, Israel, Palestine, and Afghanistan. www.jalajabonheim.com 

Rich and Antra Borofsky

Rich Borofsky, Ed.D. & Antra Kalnins Borofsky, Ed.M./

Rich and Antra Borofsky will present their work on intimacy as a spiritual path. The word “intimacy” means what is innermost.”What is innermost in us is an aware, spacious, eternal presence that is none other than Love itself.   To realize, to manifest and to share this loving presence is the heart of spiritual life.  In this presentation we will explore how emotional and sexual intimacy can be a path for allowing, welcoming, and celebrating this loving presence that is the heart who we are most truly.   

“Being Together: Intimacy as a Spiritual Path”    

Rich Borofsky, Ed.D. & Antra Kalnins Borofsky, Ed.M. are co-directors of the Center for the Study of Relationship in Cambridge, MA. where they provide therapy and workshops for couples.   They also offer their Being Together workshops for couples nationally. They are contributing authors to On Intimate Ground: A Gestalt Approach to Working with Couples; Wisdom & Compasssion in Psychotherapy (in preparation);and Joyful Wedding: A Spiritual Path to the Altar. Antra, is Gestalt therapist and Marriage and Family therapist; Rich is a Clinical Psychologist. They are both long time students. They have been a couple for 40 years. www.beingtogether.com    

Lee Holden

Lee Holden will teach how sexual Energy, physical vitality, and spiritual connection all are part of the same life force energy manifest in different ways.

The Tao of Sexual Secrets

 Lee Holden is an internationally known instructor in meditation, sexual alchemy, tai chi, and qi gong, lecturing and teaching workshops in the United States, Europe, and Asia. Holden brings to his practice passion, depth of knowledge, and diversity of experience, including international study and teaching; editing, writing, and consulting in conjunction with leading experts; and extensive athletic training and accomplishment. Holden is the founder of Santa Cruz Integrative Medicine and Chi Center, one of Northern California’s premiere wellness practices, which is dedicated to promoting overall health and well-being by providing the highest quality treatment, education, and consultation. www.pacifichealingarts.com

 Mary Sise, ACSW/ Energy Psychology and Healing from Sexual Trauma 

Mary Sise, ACSW

Mary Sise is a specialist in treating Trauma: When the Terror of the Past Hijacks the Ecstasy of the Present. When the body experiences a sexual trauma, consciousness fragments and the body, once it is triggered, prevents the person from being fully present in sexual encounters.   The sacred pleasures are overpowered by the triggered terror and no matter how hard a person tries to stay present, it is nearly impossible.   This session will discuss the mechanisms of trauma, how it impacts current sexual functioning and strategies to reclaim the soul fragments trapped in the past.

Mary Sise, LCSW, D.CEP a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Diplomat in Comprehensive Energy Psychology has a private practice in the Albany, NY area. In addition to being traditionally trained, she integrates energy therapies into her work and has trained hundreds of therapists in these methods.  Past-President of the Board of Directors for the Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology, she has presented at conferences both nationally and internationally on the use of energy therapy for trauma.  A former adjunct professor at Siena College, she has produced numerous training videos, teaches an eight week on-line course in trauma and energy psychology and is the co-author of The Energy of Belief: Psychology’s Power Tools to Focus Intention & Release Blocking Beliefs. www.integrativepsy.com/biography.asp  

Andrew Harvey

Andrew Harvey, P.C./ Embodying the Light: Spiritualized Sexuality 

 Andrew Harvey is an internationally acclaimed poet, novelist, translator, mystical scholar, and spiritual teacher. Harvey has published over 20 books including Son of Man(Tarcher/Putnam) and The Return of the Mother (North Atlantic Books). Harvey is a Fellow of All Souls College Oxford from (1972-1986) and has taught at Oxford University, Cornell University, The California Institute of Integral Studies, and the University of Creation Spirituality, as well as, various spiritual centers throughout the United States. He was the subject of the 1993 BBC film documentary The Making of a Modern Mystic.  He is the Founder of the Institute for Sacred Activism in Oak Park, Illinois, where he lives. www.andrewharvey.net

  Gina Ogden, Ph.D./ Sex, Spirit, & Shamanism: The Healing Connection

Gina Ogden

 Gina Ogden offers guidance on combining crucial elements of sex therapy and shamanic practice through her multidimensional “ISIS” model, a contemporary medicine wheel.  She describes diagnostic uses of sacred geometry and drummed journeying, demonstrates healing functions of shamanic tools such as feathers and shells, and teaches transformational techniques such as “hucha miqui,” a sacred breathing exchange that feeds the earth while clearing our chakras for sexual connection and meaning.

Gina Ogdenhas had a distinguished career as a sex therapist, family therapist, researcher, teacher, and author.  She conducts retreats and training workshops internationally, lectures widely, leads teleseminars for professionals, and has appeared on the media from talk radio to the Oprah Winfrey Show.  She has written seven books on women’s sexual health, pleasure, and the meanings of sexual relationship. Her most recent books are: The Return of Desire (2008), Women Who Love Sex (2007), and The Heart and Soul of Sex (2006) http://www.ginaogden.com

Stuart Sovatsky, Ph.D.

Sovatsky is Co-President of the Association for Transpersonal Psychology, www.atpweb.org, co-convener of the World Congress on Psychology and Spirituality (in India), author of Eros Consciousness and Kundalini and has chanted in private audience with Yannous Drnovsec, Chair of Unaligned Nations of the World. He practices psychotherapy in Californiaand employs his extensive study of Yoga and Kundalini in his work with individual and especially couples as a doorway to personal and interpersonal liberation. http://home.jps.net/~stuartcs/about.html  

Andrew Harvey will present his vision of the Cosmos as a sacred marriage of transcendence and immanence, light and dark, masculine and feminine. From this he will go onto explore what he calls the Tantra of Tenderness, the natural human Eros that flows from the inner fusion of opposites and give 3 mystical practices.

Dr. Mirdad will teach healing through energetic bodywork, intuition, emotional release, and spiritual refilling. He will also offer insights and methods for enhancing love and intimacy, awakening vitality and passion, as well as how to find and release trauma and/or inhibition stored in the body

ich and Antra Borofsky feel the word  “intimacy” means what is innermost.  What is innermost in us is an aware, spacious, eternal presence that is none other than Love itself.   To realize, to manifest and to share this loving presence is the heart of spiritual life.  In this presentation we will explore how emotional and sexual intimacy can be a path for allowing, welcoming, and celebrating this loving presence that is the heart who we are most truly.   

Whomever assisted Tina Fellus in creating this video/web site knows what is going on in the world of marketing!  Everything is video now, and it is vitally essential, especially if you are in the helping professions, to familiarize people with who you are,  and your energy so that they are more inclined to feel a connection or identify with you.  Tina does just that with this video! She is vibrant, energetic, personable and passionate about what she does. This video makes it crystal clear.  http://www.tgfelluss.com/. There is a lot of excitement out there right now about tapping into one’s personal potential. Therapy has taken a turn towards a more personal, spiritual journey! There is definitely a trend relating directly to self awareness, spirituality, and wellness! This isn’t going to go away.  This will become a way of life. Don’t run from it, reap all its rewards! The old way of operating just isn’t good enough anymore!  One can no longer put their head in the sand and deflect change. This self centered, egoistic, insecure and fearful existence will become an outdated way of behaving and seem rather neanderthal.

Tina Felluss, LCSW, is a talented psychotherapist and dynamic workshop leader in New York City. Throughout her extensive career, Tina has pioneered the combination of traditional psychotherapy with movement, body awareness and spirituality.

Tina Fellus SPEAKING TOPICS

Think Like a Winner: The Psychology of Competition
Do you feel blocked from accomplishing your personal or professional goals? Learn how to recognize the obstacles that impede your success and acquire the mental and physical skills necessary to develop your talent in any arena, whether it’s work, sports or creative performance.

Resiliency and Coping
Why do some people seem to move through life with relative ease, while others suffer?  Explore the qualities and coping skills that make life seem simpler to some and learn how, you too, can overcome adversity and manage uncertainty.

Healing Ourselves: A Journey into the Self
In this workshop we will explore some of the new therapies that bypass the traditional modality of “talk therapy.”  We’ll explore EMDR, TFT, Integrated Kabbalistic Healing and the Work of Return. We’ll also look at the neurobiological underpinnings of the memory network.

Do You Want to Dance?
Are you too scared to dance? Are you afraid people will laugh at you? The integrative techniques taught in this workshop, praised by top athletes, dancers and performance artists, can dissolve fears and accelerate learning. Get ready to groove!

http://www.tgfelluss.com/

For those of you who don’t know, I have the honor of working along side one of the forerunners in Energy Psychology, Dr. Henry Grayson. He has finished the first draft of his second book and I have the distinct honor of reading and editing it currently. It is by all means AMAZINGLY thought provoking, inspirational, and life changing!

Within this book he will give you visuals and tools to eradicate barriers to health, healing and happiness. He also explains everything in easy to understand terms. It is very comprehensive and will enable you to harness the infinite power we all have to heal and live peacefully and healthfully.  He backs up his words with science, and of course, has been in practice for decades in NYC and Westport, CT and shares his findings.

I cannot contain my excitement about this book and cannot wait until it is available for everyone to read! It is truly life transforming. I feel so entirely lucky to have the opportunity to know and work with such a caring, masterful and gifted psychologist!

Just wait world! A great book is coming your way. Get ready because it is mind blowing!

www.henrygrayson.com

It’s true, men are all created equal. We all have the ability to better ourselves, to live honorably, peacefully and to give and recieve love but experiences and other’s actions can temporarily get in the way of our path. If we all try to look upon eachother as having the same desires, fears, and need for love, we can live more peacefully. The only thing one can each do to move through difficult times is to know that you can and must handle yourself with grace and honesty.  If you don’t perform from a lower consciousness and judgement you can bet your bottom dollar that you will be alright in the long run.

It can be hard to not react to others who slight you, but I assure you to stoop to someone else’s anger isn’t the solution ever.  We cannot control other’s perceptions of us, we can only behave as ourselves.  If you have a strong sense of self, you will never falter, you will  never wish to create in someone else hurt.  Only experience and time will illustrate this. These negative feelings do nothing but harm us and others. I have learned  from Dr. Henry Grayson that we are all connected. Our thoughts, actions and words are powerful. If they aren’t spoken aloud, they can still be felt. They can cause us and others damage.  It should be your only wish to be positive, calm, and neutral. Listen, process and learn. Remember, there is no situation that is irreparable. There is no state of mind which cannot be changed.  There is no person who is better than the next. There are only differences of perception. That is what makes the world an ever changing place. Our thoughts change moment to moment, and if we can all come to the conclusion of understanding and being open to other’s perceptions, explain to one another our thoughts, things always work out.  Reflection and introspection are necessary to grow and learn. Our unconscious mind can drive our car, if we let it. Our unconscious mind is our ego self. The false self, and you know when you are operating from it if you run and blame, and threaten people. It is not optimal to intentionally create discomfort in others, when it is the hardest, you need to really reach within yourself and think about what you might say or do because you cannot undo it. It this thought or action productive? Is this going to yield a good result? Is this other person going to feel good or bad as a result of what I am going to say or threaten to do? If you know that it isn’t going to make someone feel good, then don’t do it. If your first instinct is to lash out, don’t do it, stop and walk away. You will feel much better for it.  End of story.

I am a seeker of answers but find sometimes that nothing really works but time. Time and perspective seem to go hand in hand with respect to challenging situations. There is a process we go through emotionally when we are faced with struggles and each moment we can feel a million different ways about thus situation. It is always helpful that if another person is involved to communicate, not ad nauseum, but allow yourself and the other person to be heard to ultimately conclude in peace. The fact is, we all have our own experience regardless of what other’s perceive is a fact. If we all saw things the way others did, there would never be a misunderstanding. Through misunderstandings we can all grow, if we communicate. There are some situations that may disappear as a result, but most conditions and people will remain steady, if you give them a chance. I don’t believe anything cannot be resolved peacefully. If we go deep into ourselves, the only authentic place that feels right, natural and real is acceptance and love. When we get away from that and find ourselves blaming, pointing and angry, know that the place from where that comes is fear and is not real. It is a perceived threat or situation that we have created in our minds. It is very likely that  another person will intentionally harm, but realize that that intention isn’t coming from the truest place of the person or situation. If we all have faith and operate from a noble place, it won’t be a boring world. There can remain mystery and excitement, but it will be on a deeper more respectful level. Not everything requires a talking out if you are operating from a neutral and respectful core, giving your truest most authentic self possible. Have respect for others, and listen to them, if they need to be heard. Not everything is about you, mostly it isn’t. It is about how they are perceiving the situation.  Just trust in life, if you come from that place, it doesn’t matter if the other is telling the “truth.” The truth is simple, it is what you already know, if you operate as such. Don’t feel gullible if someone has deceived you, because all you can do is trust that you didn’t deceive them.  Be confident and stride through life desiring to assist people and to bring out the best in everyone you come into contact with. It is so much lovelier to help than to knock down. In general, if you see someone in need of assistance, or you feel you might be able to be an asset, just do it because it feels good. Giving is far more rewarding than receiving.  Life is short, appreciate every day you are above ground. Walk with confidence.  Have a great day!

It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see. ~Henry David Thoreau