It’s the dead of winter, says a friend of mine, but I don’t seem to mind this year. I guess it is because I love where I live and I always challenge myself to figure something out which will create some thinking on my part. I keep wondering about different mediums of artistic expression these days, other than fabric, and wear ables. I want to contribute to my space, my home with items that are thought provoking. I want everything I see to delight me and to make me wonder. There is a clothes line off my house, and that makes me daydream all the time. I like to see clothing on a clothes line and even better, inhale it after it is taken down!

I love having lavendar oil in my place. Lavendar is lowkey, and it is relaxing. I am also interested in plants these days, and watching them grow. Typically, I was bad at growing plants, but now, with responsible watering, I think I have it all down! I have a hanging lipstick plant, and am seeing some new flowers emerge within the lipstick case! Who knew! If we never stop to notice the small things, the simple, and life at the speed of consciousness, which to me is about being quiet sometimes, lingering on a thought, a scene or in a moment, we don’t really have anything at all.

Visual images are most important to a full and lush life rife with romance, possibilities and creativity. Why is it that the most simple of homes, with the most raw, healthy foods, and nature abound make one feel so much of their senses? Not the most clean, pristine, modern, etc? The way people choose to live is a great indicator of their imagination.  You can sense from one’s surroundings if they have an artistic sensibility. A curiosity or a poetic nature. To me, a life devoid of all this is boring, random and remiss of many of the most important elements in life. 

We all need a little something to look at, to dream at, to get lost in,  to stare at and keep your eyes open to for awhile, quiet and still. Relish in the nature of things and people. Keep an honest heart, an open mind, and let yourself get lost in something for a long time instead of getting lost in someone else. Get lost in your self. Many people make the mistake of placing too much importance on what other’s think of them, or if they will be accepted by someone else either romantically or friendly. Don’t make the mistake of living for others, live for your self. Find what it is that makes time stop for you visually, mentally and spiritually. Don’t sell your life to someone else. Keep it for your self. Share pieces of you, but make no mistake, being is the simplest form of bliss.

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I believe everyone can reason their way into or out of anything, to the detriment of the realization that you actually have real feelings of love for another person. People talk themselves out of relationships for many reasons. It can be hard to recognize love or real feelings for someone. If only they were “like this” or “like that”. If only the other person would be more one way than another way, so on and so on. It is so easy to think of reasons not to want to be with someone based upon a deep seated fear. After watching Eat, Pray, Love, I found myself pondering some things. Also after hearing about other’s experiences regarding marriage and relationships, and reflecting upon my own, I realized that many can go from relationship to relationship not giving it the chance it deserves should there exist something like love. Relationship has many meanings, and it doesn’t have to be fully committed in order to show someone how you feel about them. Commitment arrives once people have determined that this is something they want to build together.

How Do We Know If We are Broken? What does that mean exactly? When two people realize that they have real feelings for one another, why can’t they bridge the gap that keeps them apart? Obviously, it has to be a mutual coming together, but what is the predecessor that will create in them that trust to bridge the gap we all know is fear? In Eat, Pray, Love, Liz Gilbert is afraid of losing her self. I think everyone has that feeling, or fears losing themselves. Quite often people no longer refer to themselves as I, they say “we”. They lose the I as in their own identity. I am realizing now what the Buddhists teach when they say no attachment to an outcome, or have any expectations and are OK with that. How does one achieve that? Massive self discipline is what it takes! To only rely on oneself is scarce in this society, but if you think about it, when the chips are down, who is the only person who can really lift you out of that hole? YOURSELF!

How do people become broken and fearful? Is it as simple as you or one of the people thinking, “we just don’t fit.” What does that mean? If there are real feelings, is there such a thing as a perfect fit or do people go from one to the next to the next thinking that they will find the “fit” that has been missing up until this point? Or my favorite is “timing”! “Timing is everything”, people love to say that! I think it is an excuse for people to keep wandering. Could there exist a whole contingent of people who will never feel like something fits, and if so, is there anything wrong with that? Is there such a thing as the life of the artist, the dreamer, one who cannot have a relationship that lasts more than 3 years, because that is when romantic love dies? Maybe there are people out there who marriage doesn’t work for, maybe more people than not, since married people tend to feel trapped a lot. But statistics say, married people live longer, and don’t get sick as often, tricking us all into thinking that there is something wrong with us if we don’t take the plunge.

Do I think people want to be in love? Yes, I do, but to think it is everlasting to the point where they cannot get out and no longer explore options that could make them happier is ludicrous. Have we been so conditioned by society to believe that there is something wrong if we remain an I instead of a we? I know when I feel love, but when two people will not, can not, and refuse to close the gap think that perhaps this just isn’t a fit and shit upon it by belittling it as such are gravely wrong. Just because one might feel for someone else doesn’t mean it has to fit traditional standards and stay on a course to eventually make one another feel trapped, and that is what keeps people from expressing their true feelings for one another.

All these excuses, and expectations put upon them by others and societal mores. So many people break unions, friendships, and love relationships because of a fear of being trapped because of the feelings they have for the other person. Can we really not allow ourselves to tell, show and express to each other that we have feelings because of “timing”, not being “ready” and fear? We all do that because we are trapped in outdated thinking and miss out on some real and meaningful experiences because of the expectations that generally appear due to the showing, telling, about feelings etc. It has become so not normal to express yourself naturally, that when you do, people say, OMG, you come on to strong! What is that? Too strong, not strong enough, again, EXCUSES! We avoid ourselves and our feelings so much so in fact that we avoid one another, or avoid authentic self expression because we don’t want to scare them, or, god forbid, have them think we like them so much that they will want to get away from us? What the fuck has happened in this world whereby people avoid one another who have feelings towards each other? This is complete insanity! Or  we secretly hold them dear and never tell them, just think about them alone and never tell them because if we tell them we automatically think OH NO, WE ARE NOW IN A RELATIONSHIP and I lose myself and I am no longer an I, and now because I expressed myself we become a WE! Oh my god, my head hurts.

More people need to express authentic emotion and feelings with out fear, and without expectations! There would be far less dis-ease and illness if people let shit out! There is a saying, “we might not be here tomorrow”, and isn’t the meaning of life to show others how they make you feel or let them know that you do care about them? Has society become so fearful of love that spontaneous hugs and kisses fall by the wayside because OH NO, WHAT WILL THEY THINK? What is so wrong with letting someone know that they make you feel good, or that you find them attractive, or that you love being around them? Now I realize I am repeating myself here, but do you get the point? Stop hiding behind stoic behavior, silences, and walls, let people know how you feel! It won’t be the end of the world, you won’t have to end your free life as you know it, all you will do is make someone feel good about you and about themselves. Let things unroll as they will, but don’t run away because you feel. Allow yourself to feel and allow the other person to know. Let it be what it is supposed to be, not awkward, JUST NATURAL and FLOWING and OPEN. Open up the dams, break down the walls, cry a little, feel a lot, and let the other person know if they light you up. That is the greatest gift you can give someone. Be honest, let them know if you are scared, or afraid of losing your self, or afraid of a relationship. 9 times out of 10, both of you will flow and see where it goes with out hurting the other, if you keep that shit real, clear, and authentic and maybe even still be free too, but there is no reason in the world why people need to hurt one another because they feel something.

Stop talking yourselves out of having feelings, instead FEEL WITH ALL YOU’VE GOT, because THIS LIFE IS ALL WE’VE GOT! We are all going to have our hearts broken closed and broken open several hundred times. But if you do it with kindness and honesty it will give you great experience, warmth and an understanding that will keep paving the way for PEACE.  My wisdom for today. If there is someone out there who has touched your heart, and you never told them, tell them, let them know, give the gift of kindness, and a well deserved experience to spend time with that person being totally NATURAL. If the other person is true and honest, they aren’t going to make you feel bad, they are going to like that you like them, and let it be where it sits. This isn’t so intellectual, but I hope a couple sentences hit you right where it should, in the A$$~ or in the heart. Flow bitches…..take the cork out!

ps this must have been flowing like a mf*cker because I did a spell check and no words were wrong, the flow, I am onto something. What, I don’t know, but information that requires sharing.

I was both excited and elated to get the good news that Carla Johnston’s film, The Truth, featuring Dr. Henry Grayson, will be coming to theaters in March of 2011!

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The Web Site describes the film: What would our relationships and world look like if all of us could readily access and stay connected to this sense of “connectedness”, awe and wonder at our existence and understand our common value of life as being rare, precarious and precious, staying focused on what unites us, rather than separates us?

There are some things we claim to know as truth, with certainty, when the evidence may not support it sufficiently to persuade others. Or when it is something deeply personal that we just know that we know, but don’t understand why we know.

This will be a thought provoking film and I am elated that it is finally due to come out. The web site is interesting and I urge you to take a look at it: http://www.thetruthmovie.tv/#wallState=1;title=Watch%20The%20Film;share=1__/watch-the-film

Spiritual Medium, Michele Renee

I am excited to find out some things we all think about when we think of psychic readings, communication with those loved ones who have passed, etc. Michele Renee has been reading for people for a long time and has garnered some prestigious recognition and I am excited to ask her some pointed questions about the process and how one can distinguish psychic thoughts from “normal” every day thoughts. She is the one to answer them due to her precise and accurate readings! She is the real deal and I am so curious about this sort of thing. She teaches classes on being a medium and apparently all of us have the ability, if we choose to develop it.

Medium, Spiritual Medium, or Mediumship, what exactly do these terms mean? This is a question Michele is often asked. Her response is, “A Medium or Spiritual Medium is an individual who is a bridge connecting those of us here in the physical plane to the souls in the spiritual world.”

Michele is so popular, she is booked almost 5 months out! Tune in to learn more, or listen at your leisure by going to:http://www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-oles

Since I am on a self path here, knowing, asserting, loving, and being, I happened across some more letters that I have retained. People writing to me about their thoughts about me, and it is always good to go back to see how I have affected others, and what their perceptions were and are of me. After all, life is perception and we can be who we are, but others will paint us with their experiences and their eyes. We can empathize with others and think we know how they feel, but truth is, we will never know, unless they tell us, and of course we have to trust that they are telling their truth. Many people’s truths are moment to moment, as can be mine at times but I do remain steadfast and true though in honoring who I am, who I want to be, and how I can be there for others.

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“that’s one reason I dig you so much, you understand yourself, you strive to understand yourself. No one is perfect. Perfect is stupid. As much as I respect you, I certainly don’t think you are perfect (to think you were would be both unflattering and untrue). However, you are an exquisitely wonderful, unique, delicate creature, and you are ferociously committed to yourself. As I wrote one time, “most women fall into the trap of being at war with themselves and at peace with the world. Sandra, on the other hand, seems to be at peace with herself and at war with the world.”

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With an insatiable curiosity she came to my rescue

Giving the softest rewards for games I had won

Enchanted by stories of my past

Initial attraction, unlike ever before and never questioned again

She has beauty one rarely finds, like a thousand sunsets retreating to the sea

Feelings for her were true yet the words only echoed in my mind, instead of showering her soul

Then came the day when her strength prevailed inside I applauded, while my love for her continued to grow

Now all I can ask of her is to see what I have become and not where I once stood

For her future determines the paths you take, not the old footsteps you leave behind

The pain can be intense and I do miss the presence of her being

But not for her strength although unrivaled

Not for her beauty although unparalleled

But for her eyes, the way she paints the world through them

For her mind, the way it interprets and composes on it’s canvas

And for her heart, it shows her creations and shares a love of life and her love for me

I once told her in all honesty, I love you so much I could cry, now I do

Beauty, truth, rarity, uniqueness in it’s simple splendor

I hope for the day when I frame her face in my hands and kiss her for how we need to be

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Since we met, 100 days ago, I feel that I’ve really known you a long time. The familiarity and the warmth are startingly delightful. and I always think of you with a smile in my heart and with an exhilarated gasp in my mind.

I care for you a lot, more than I think you know, and think often of what you mean to me and how much I miss your company when we’re not together. I love to wake up next to you and see your wondrous smile, feel your luminous gaze. Your physical beauty; your eyes; your lips; your cheeks- the entirety of your lovely face makes me tremble inside, but this physical beauty is transcended by the charm and mirth that is your mind. It dances and sings with complete congruence with your emotions. Your personality, so full of life is constantly entertaining, not only for its own sake, but the sake of others as well. Your honesty is also part of your charm and part of the reason I feel so strongly for you. I keeps you innocent and yet reveals the little girl that lives within you. Your laughter is infectious, your smile contagious. I love the times we spend together in laughter and joy. The passion I have for you never abates, it grows ever stronger. Desert islands marooned, whatever you wish to call it, I always feel best when we are in our own world, separate from the vagaries and vicissitudes of the outside; laughter, talking, sharing, and giving one another the love that we feel. I am always there for you. Caring and full of sweetness for all the things that make up your entire being, for being you. You can always count on me to love you when you’re experiencing the highest highs or the deepest lows. I’m your friend, and if you will have me, your comrade in arms.

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Ok, wow, I am amazed and happy I kept these. Today, I want everyone to celebrate themselves! I understand that publishing this may seem self serving but I could care less! I am happy to be me, happy that I have moved people to the point where they wrote to me about how I made them feel. Everyone should have a page where they have letters posted about them so that they can be reminded of who they are, and who they are becoming. It is good to be reminded of how you have affected others. This post makes me feel like I have done a lot of right in my life. We all deserve that! These are some of my finest moments, my moments I want to share and now I get to live them again by re-reading them! Bravery, honesty, truth- GO FOR IT TODAY! Read your old letters, feel good about yourself. WE ALL DESERVE IT. PeACe! and Love to you, and thanks for reading! I hope this post inspires you to craft a lovely letter to someone who moves you. The bottom line is we all need to show up for life, and for love.

This book is freaking me out a little bit, but in a good way though, because I am learning more about intuition and how to ascertain whether a thought is just a wish or intuition. Very subtle, and mystifying and HARD!

Intuition has several Characteristics:

Confidence in the process of intuition

Certainty of truth of intuitive insights

Suddenness and immediacy of knowledge

Emotion/affect associated with intuitive insight

Nonanalytic, nonrational, nonlogical

Gestault nature of knowing

Associated with empathy

Difficulty putting images into words

Relationship to Creativity

excerpts from book:

Intuitive hits are sudden, immediate, and unexpected ideas. They seem illogical and have no clear line of thought. They frequently come out of the blue. Nevertheless, they bring with them a feeling of confidence and a certainty of their absolute indisputability. Often, even when we’re not outwardly confident about our intuition, when we’re devaluing it, like the nurses in the Benner study, our bodies are expressing confidence in its information.

Intuitive insights involve emotion. They’re hard to describe in words, or more accurately, they reveal themselves first as gestalt, as hunches that are difficult to put words to. The left brain, however, quickly begins to fill in words and details, making the intuition marketable and easy to communicate. Intuition is also associated with empathy.

You can be awake, asleep and dreaming, or in a state of consciousness in between when intuition comes to you. Henry Jacobs believed intuition to be preceded by detachment, slight melancholy, and a sort of trancelike state, like the one he felt he was in when he made his discovery in a lab. You may have had that feeling yourself, when you were wandering around, maybe a little upset about something, or daydreaming, and you suddenly stumbled upon something unexpected. But intuition can certainly hit you when you’re in the full force of conscious activity.

It’s counterproductive to think of intuition and intuitiveness in terms of separateness or superiority, or in terms of the supernatural, or even of the offbeat and bizarre. Intuition is simply a sense that’s common to each and every one of us. It’s neither a magic power nor just the crazy hunches of eccentrics. It’s a real down to earth capacity that is available to anyone willing to tune in his transmitter and listen in to what’s being broadcast. The information it offers us is practical, and it can immeasurably improve and enrich our lives. In this light, intuition is common sense operating on the most fundamental, spontaneous level.

With all this being included, it is a perfect seguay for me to let you know that I have secured Michele Renee for my next blog talk radio interview! Talk about intuition– and even more ability! I cannot wait to explore the mind of someone who does a service and is booked out 4 months or more at a time due to her accuracy and the relevant information! I am excited and November 3rd at 7:15 it will all go down! I need to demystify this and break it down so that people understand exactly what it is these spiritual mediums do and how they do it.