Unfortunately, society, being as insane as it is has this concept that if someone isn’t flipping out, causing a ruckus, screaming, flailing about and obviously stressed out, they don’t care! Can you imagine? Knowing how stress directly effects the body and health, why would we willingly inflict that harm upon ourselves for the sake of others?

Has being stressed out EVER solved a problem, changed what already occurred to “make you stress”, and or make the whole situation go away? Why do we have to flip out for anyone to believe we care about them? That is the big question! It is a fact that when we put undo stress on ourselves, it impairs our ability to think clearly, it damages our cells, creates cancer and other health issues. DIS- Ease is titled disease for a REASON!

Wake up America. Being evolved, steady, calm and kind is a way to love yourselves and others. It is also the best way to come up with real workable solutions, and to allow your self to remain in health!

So people, stop accusing others of not caring because they aren’t out of control or exhibiting nutso behavior! It doesn’t mean they don’t care, it means they are watching out for their health. Stop demanding that others flip out to illustrate they care! It’s almost like you are saying, ENDANGER YOUR HEALTH and get a DIS EASE FOR ME to prove you care about me!  Isn’t that INSANE to ask of anyone?!!

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The Myth of Stress Revealed

Where does stress really come from?

Published on April 22, 2010 by Andrew Bernstein in The Myth of Stress/Psychology Today

Where does stress come from? That’s easy. It comes from stressors like traffic jams, angry bosses, and screaming children. 

But why? Why do stressors provoke stress in us? The answer, which is repeated in practically every article and book on stress (and which is disastrously wrong, as you’ll see in a moment) involves human evolution. Once upon a time (the story goes), our ancestors walked across the grassy plains, only to be confronted by… a saber-toothed tiger! These ancestors immediately experienced a hormonal surge, which you might remember from high school biology as the fight-or-flight response.

Those who had a strong fight-or-flight response were more likely to survive and produce offspring. Those who didn’t have a strong response, for obvious reasons, were not. And so, over the course of many generations, this response was strengthened, eventually becoming hardwired in us as a very useful adaptation. And then something unusual happened.

Life on Earth changed.

Civilizations formed. Villages, then towns, then cities appeared. And, in the space of a few thousand years—the mere blink of an eye from an evolutionary perspective—those grassy plains and saber-toothed tigers were replaced by super-highways and micromanaging bosses. And our fight-or-flight response, calibrated so well to respond to occasional threats, started going haywire.

And that, supposedly, is why we experience so much stress today. The number of stressors has multiplied exponentially: traffic, money, success, work/life balance, the economy, the environment, parenting, family conflict, relationships, disease. As the nature of human life has become far more complicated, our ancient stress response hasn’t been able to keep up. Our bodies react as if threats are everywhere, as if saber-toothed tigers have us surrounded. We have become victims of our own biology. And the best we can do (we are told) is breathe, relax, exercise, and try to cope.

As I explain in my book, The Myth of Stress, all of this is fundamentally wrong. It’s also incredibly costly. It costs you and your loved ones the emotional burden of living with stress everyday. It costs you the physical burden that necessarily follows. And, of course, it costs individuals, companies, and our government billions of dollars each year. Recovering these costs requires that we finally break through the myth of stress.

The truth is that stress doesn’t come from your boss, your kids, your spouse, traffic jams, health challenges, or other circumstances. It comes from your thoughts about these circumstances. More specifically, stress comes from a particular kind of thinking that humans happen to excel at. The more of this thinking you engage in, the more stress you experience.

We have everything the American Dream Prescribed, so why aren’t we happy?

An excerpt:

Carol Graham knows just how kid-centric Americans can be. Graham, who studies well being at the Brookings Institution, in Washington, DC, was raised in Peru by a Swiss mother. Both her research and personal experience suggest that emphasis on children is one of the major differences between families in America and those in other countries. “In other societies, kids fit into the family; parents are in charge,” Graham says. “Here, the norm is that you’re out of control of your life and spend every Saturday going to  59 birthday parties. You don’t walk into homes elsewhere and find the kid standing on the coffee table.” This child-centric style of parenting results in adulthood divorced from extra-professional peer relationships. The autonomy and agency of American adults is ceded to children.

“American adults don’t have a social life of their own; they don’t hang out as people.” The American tendency to overfocus on kids may explain a large part of why parents report so much distress surrounding child rearing.

The relentless focus on the nuclear family seems to be increasing as women wait longer and longer to have children. Jean Twenge has found that the newest generation of parents- America’s oldest yet- experiences the greatest level of dissatisfaction. “You had this time to live your life,” she says. “You know what you’re missing.”

“Why does no one tell us adulthood would be like this?” I recently whined to a friend. “Adulthood?”, she scoffed. “There’s no such thing as adulthood.” She has a point. This dream of arriving at some destination of deep fulfillment- a place where parenting will give you profound joy and satisfaction; where the romance of partnership is eternal; where making a home payment on the first of every month is a source of pride and not anxiety- is often no more than that: a dream. A faith, almost something not even the best social science is likely to corrupt. It may be impossible to awaken from the American Dream. But by adjusting our expectations, and recognizing that one must balance pleasure and sacrifice, perhaps we can at least have an honest conversation about when the dream is, and is not, worth chasing.

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All the work is done for you here! Good bye Lancome, Dior, Estee Lauder, etc. you were all killing me with all your chemicals, preservatives and additives and fragrance!! I will post about laundry detergent and shampoos another time. This is a great start to take total responsibility for your health topically to eliminate over production of estrogen and to potentially lower your risk of cancer and other feminine reproductive diseases!

Please note, I checked all ingredients and there are no herbal estrogen producing ones in these nor are there chemicals.

Herbs which are estrogen producing are: lavender oil, chamomile, rosemary, sage, soy, pomegranite, etc. please check my other posts to see if I missed any herbs here.

The Products I chose are:

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Real Purity Health Glow Foundation- Light Beige- $24.00

Living Nature Clear Lights Tinted Moisturizer- Evening Light- $37.00

Aubrey Organics Silken Earth Loose Powder Blush- AUB Honey Bronze-$11.95

Beauty Wise Mineral Mascara- $14.99

Logona Free Moisture Cream- $23.50

Chae Organics CocoMango Butter- $5.50

Logona Mineral Toothpaste-$5.50

Deep Steep Foaming Handwash-$7.50

Real Purity Eye and throat cream- $25.95

Sea Buckthorn with Ester-C Rejuvenating Antioxidant Serum $15.98

Beauty Wise Mini Restful Concealer Plus Brush Bundle- $16.98

Logona Free Glycerin Soap- $5.50

Logona Cosmetic Eye Defining Pencils, black-$10.50

Sante Cosmetics Eyeshadow Pencil, Pearl- $11.00

Earths Beauty Mineral Loose Face Powder- Satin- $24.95

Beauty Wise Finish Powder- Translucent- $12.00

Primitive Makeup Company Lip Gloss in Fiji and Cozumel- $18.00 each

Real Purity Pressed Mineral Color Eyeshadow in Walnut- $13.99

What we speak becomes the house we live in~Hafiz