All Things Sandra Oles

Dr. Henry Grayson's New Book- Coming out Early 2012!

In our earliest most developmental stages of childhood we are in a highly suggestible trance due to the abundance of time spent in uncontrollable theta brain wave patterns. These same wave patterns, while deeply relaxed are used to hypnotize and program suggestions.

We are downloading other’s negative thought patterns and beliefs around us by default and these are imprinted in our limbic system creating patterns of behavior and belief systems that we have no control over. These negative imprints combined with accumulated traumas, which also create negative self beliefs,  overload our immune system and set us up for greater chances for chronic illness, unhappiness, and often life threatening disease.

Through decades of research, teaching, and client work, Dr. Grayson has created a synergistic therapy system which combines new scientific research, psychoanalysis, ancient wisdom, quantum physics, spiritual thought and kinesiology that has been working wonders in his private practice.  Is it the success of his patients, and in training other mental health professionals that created this empowering “how to” manual to allow you to stop being a spectator in your life of illness and unhappiness to realize your unlimited potential to heal!

In his enthusiastic and yet comprehensive explanations, he takes you on an exciting journey to change your perspective and teaches you healing methods with downloadable video demonstrations, and printable pdf files for your step-by-step use to transform your thinking and greatly lessen your chances for debilitating illness.

You will receive clear guidance on how to recognize, identify and eliminate your unconscious barriers that block you from total health, healing and happiness.

Use Your Body to Heal Your Mind is an essential manual for anyone who wants to take control of their health, or continue to have abundant health, and for those who wish to be pro-active in the process of eliminating the chances of creating disease. Once you understand that you really do have infinite potential to position your self for total health, happiness and healing, your life becomes much more endurable and enjoyable.

GET READY, This book is FASCINATING!

Believe: to have a firm conviction as to the goodness, efficacy, or ability of something

While it’s difficult to remain true to your messages, intuition, and internal guidance, you must. You must also learn to not take other’s opinions or life decisions personally. I always wonder why people (including me) get into, “What did he or she mean by that text, that statement, that email?” It means whatever you deem it to mean. You operate from your own perspective and have your own way of interpreting things and whatever you wish to do with the message, you do.

I choose to just take it for what it is. However, many people talk in riddles and moment to moment the emotion  from the messenger can and will change and how you  interpret something will change and change. It depends on your mood, confidence, and what is occurring in your life at the moment. We can all question our intentions if we think something to death, but don’t. Flow without expectations, always believe in your ability to come through things with your inner most conviction.

Having read Krishnamurti since the 80s, I believe he has influenced me greatly in the way I percieve and behave. Strong reliance on the self is imperative. We all sequester other’s opinions because we like different perspectives, however, in the end, you must do what is true to your being, or say whatever it is that is true to your being.  If you aren’t ‘being” you are not giving the world your presence or gift. (no pun intended).

Working with Dr. Graysonputs me in touch with some of the most innovative minds in science, psychology, ancient wisdom, and philosophy. It is no accident that I am privy to these people, teachings, and writings. Just when I may be thinking of something that has occurred in my life, or in a relationship, I magically get a message in my writing for Henry, or in listening to, doing research for or booking a radio show guest for dialogue with him, or editing material, shooting videos, editing videos, or in conversation with Dr. Grayson.

Look and read messages from people just as they are. Don’t be paranoid, because that is exhausting, just trust in what it is that you feel as you read it, because how you feel is your connection to the moment. Try not to attach too much importance to it because the only thing that is truly important is how you feel about your self, and how you assert that energy in the world. People will say things,  and do things all day long, they are fleeting moments of emotion and drive.

The only thing you can do in your life to pursue peace is to stand up for what you believe in, know what it is that you believe in ,and don’t take shit personally. Because everything everyone says or does is their reaction to life given what they are working with in terms of  “survival”. They feel they need to do or say whatever it is to survive whatever it is their perception is of what is happening. It never has anything to do with you. Confusing I know– but we all behave with whatever conscious or unconscious mechanisms we have in place to cope.

The best thing you can do is believe that people are better, because once you feel that the world is shit, you spiral. You become depressed, hopeless and reside in victimhood. Believe me when I say, I am of a very angelic heart, however, I will stand my ground, and I will let you know how I feel about right and wrong, MY RIGHT AND WRONG… I always like to say, “there is a fine line between spirituality and being a doormat.” I straddle that line beautifully. It has taken a lot of work… you can retain your light without being overly saccharine and totally boring, trust me. Just believe is what I say, because what you put out there in belief, will more than likely manifest, maybe not immediately, but eventually. If it is belief in a person who keeps failing, keep believing, because the more you believe, the more they will, and the more likely they will have the opportunity to achieve peace and make a difference.  

Sit down, fucking breathe, let go, and do what it is you want to do to feel quiet, peaceful, and have your mind to your self. Don’t expend it on others, and expectations. Expend it on yourself- get creative, get pleased that all you are doing is focusing on what you need to accomplish for you to be pleased. Don’t focus on how other’s perceive you, don’t focus on what you need or want from others. Focus on what you want for your self. Whomever makes an appearance in your life will, the quieter you are, the less you do, the more you get.

Love this song— so old school- slow jam…

SCOUT WINDOW

My talented, and hard working friend Kathleen Olsen has performed a miracle and opened a pop up store all on her own in one week’s time to help you with your holiday shopping! Not only does she have impeccable taste, but the store is GORGEOUS! Scout bags are the only thing I use to transport my belts because they are super pretty, durable and waterproof- AND- hold a lot of weight!

If you want decorative, cheerful storage bins, pretty tote bags, sturdy and stylish coolers with a strap- hip flooring and so so so much more, GO CHECK HER OUT! Because as it’s slated right now, she will only be there thru December’s end! Store hours- Thurs., Friday, Sat. 11-8 and Sunday, Tues and Wed. 12-6.

She is also carrying my cute keyfobs, and will be featuring some of my oliver green belts soon as well!

Park right at the end of Washington, cross the street and go into a wonderland of color and first class- funky and eclectic tastes of Kathleen!

She is open Friday, Saturday, Sunday- GO GET YOUR SCOUT ON GIRL! Go escape, shop and take it all in, COLOR, FUN, and a great sales girl!

Pink Dog House/Mini Bunny Barn

The Vision of Kathleen Olsen

The first 3 episodes made me so uncomfortable. Laura Dern plays Amy, a woman who has just returned from a rehab center after having a mental breakdown.  Amy is socially awkward and puts herself in some “self created” social land mines time and time again. She isn’t “garden variety” cringe-worthy like Larry David. She takes it to a whole nother level.

I am a firm believer in at least watching two episodes of a series on cable. More than likely you will “get it” after the second show. I was reluctant to continue to journey into Enlightened, but I am glad I did. I’ve now caught up to the current schedule and have found it to be Six Feet Under “dark”, The Big C, funny, and thought provoking too. 

Since “Amy” is on a path of enlightenment, it is interesting to see how a series will convey spirituality and the reaction of others to someone who is fully trying to embrace the better part of her being.  Laura Dern created this show with Mike White and they are definitely onto something. I like hearing the thoughts in “Amy’s” head. They are realistic, and make me realize that everyone can relate to her character which was a  revelation, after experiencing her “crazy” in the first four episodes.  She begins to become more bearable as the show goes on.

Amy’s ex husband is played by Luke Wilson, who doesn’t love a little LUKE? Her ex, is drug addicted, cute and sort of stagnant and they have a lot of love between them. You wonder, drug addicted because of all the heartbreak in their past, or always that way.

Her mom is played by Diane Ladd and Amy’s mother is disappointly jaded and non communicative, BUT does have a minute of shine- exactly ONE MINUTE, once in a blue moon. 

I say, WATCH IT! I am into it now. There are some funny situations, characters, and some inspiring dialogue. After-all, it is about someone actually “Waking Up.”  I like that is on cable because it brings the edge necessary to be realistic.

—oh and Robin Wright was a guest star on one. She is pretty cool in my book…

R.E.D.

One of my absolute most favorite people on the planet, Rebecca Dolber, makes jewelry. It’s not  fluffy, ordinary stuff that every- day girls wear. It is earthy, aware, and worldly. She travels extensively globally to obtain eclectic little charms, beads, and little details that make her pieces distinctly original.

When you see her at craft shows, her tent is always bustling with people thinking, deciding, trying on and creating their own pieces that Rebecca puts together right before their eyes.

The Grove Stand at a Craft Show

What is wonderful about this process is that it involves two people. The artisan, Rebecca, and the client, who picks out precisely what they want. Rebecca artfully puts it together so it makes sense aesthetically and the client loves it because it reflects who they are.

Notice the message- the word- "evolve"

The charms and add ables are in the hundreds- and the dog tags, which I personally love and have bought for personal friends, because you can imprint a word that is meaningful to you and wear it as a reminder of who you are or who you want to be.

me and my arrow...

Thing is … She is ethereal, earthy, honest, raw and such a kind person. She has an ability to reach deep inside of you, if she chooses, and brings out the quiter, easier parts of who you already are and make you think just a little bit more.  She is comfortable in her skin, lovely, and so easy to be around. Rebecca is the true meaning of “Indie.” She is an independent spirit who lives life on her terms, much like I do, and I write this because I wear a piece of her, and a piece of me everyday, as I reach for my bracelets, necklaces or ring. I am reminded of what a gentle, uplifting and poetic spirit she truly is and how I wish to be and am in this life time.

 go here: http://www.etsy.com/shop/thegrovestand - you will be glad you did.

my personal daily wear... from R.E.D. The Grove Stand

message....blue...

Late last night, I caught The Mark Twain Award Ceremony for Tina Fey on PBS. As I watched, I thought to myself, “Why are there no great media female role models out there?” I became disturbed by my recent memories of cardio at the gym earlier where my equipment was in front of a television where Kim Kardashian was on the television numerous times with her plasticy, over made up face and all these external things which I surmise make her popular. Her large breasts, behind and not to mention her incessant  provocative clothing. I wondered why this woman garners so much attention. Is it that she is a circus freak? Sort of like a spectacle whereby you cannot help but look and listen about her because she is so utterly ridiculous? I think about how women like this become famous for no reason, the Paris Hiltons, the Kim Kardashians, the Snookis, etc.

Last night Jackie was over sewing and we had the craft room television on and it happened to be on a show about plastic surgery gone wild. We both were agape with awe and disgust. Why is it that in 2011 women are still deforming themselves all for the attention of men? They don’t do it for themselves! They get procedures that are classicly barbie doll-esque so that men as a whole will find them “irresistible.” I don’t know about you, but I get totally grossed out when “noer do well” men (meaning mean, uninspired, drunk, angry, etc) check me out and oogle me. If I had it my way, only kind, well attired, intellectual and funny men would look my way. (ha ha ha)  I feel skeeved to have eyes on me, which is why I don’t wear provocative clothing– it’s also because I have no desire to have men look at me “that way”. I’d much rather sift through the dirt and find that one diamond who will find my mind irresistible because they are the ones who stick around for the “long haul”.  It is incredibly sad to me that women in this day and age and supposed PROGRESSION are still are so fucking insecure and fall prey to MEDIA MANUFACTURED media standards of beauty!

What is beauty?: health, kindness, peace of mind, curiosity, humor, being loving, and completely comfortable about who you are. and of course KNOWING WHO YOU ARE- a STRONG SENSE OF SELF IS BEAUTIFUL beyond measure.

I feel so sad for women in Hollywood that feel the pressure to keep deforming themselves in order to “keep that man” or to “get that part”. What a sad life they live indeed. The whole time they spend exercising, dieting, nipping, tucking, injecting, extending, coloring, and changing their external instead of developing their internal. And more than likely, this external attention they prioritize will bring them the wrong guy or the wrong attention anyway. By wrong, I mean men or people who only value what someone looks like instead of who they are. I know I am making a sweeping generalization here, but you get my point.

More women need to write screenplays featuring characters of all colors, sizes and ages, whereby a story of value is illustrated- the human condition- and inspiring! Women need to write for women, because most men will write stories featuring actors and actresses who are in their 20s, which is TOTALLY HILARIOUS because people that age rarely contend with the issues presented in the screenplay in real life! When is art going to reflect reality? Please give me some reality so I can put things into proper perspective….

All these thoughts swimming around in my mind made me come to a real conclusion- There needs to be better female role models who are featured in the media! It needs to be better than actresses on every magazine with stories about fledgling relationships, cheating and their new bodies. old bodies and new men! I feel so entirely insulted that these magazines are targeted toward women!

And women keep buying them, keeping themselves down and ”paying”  the very people who prey on them and their insecurities making them monetarily RICH and themselves self esteem poor. 

America is in a state of disarray, where I see people continue to stay mired in victim-hood, they are uninspired, lazy, and are focused on all the wrong things! They are focused on other people instead of them SELVES. The Occupy Wall Street is a great example of what is truly wrong with America! People expend energy on highlighting others “perceived wrong” instead of elevating themselves to new heights for achievement! I don’t know what has gone wrong here, but the tables need to be turned, BIG TIME.

You see, I am a Republican (I usually don’t talk politics because it is divisive) but I am going to try to explain why I choose this party. I choose it because I BELIEVE IN PEOPLE! I am an OPTIMIST at large. I believe people can rise and become better because I know I have. I have done the work on myself whereby I know I am a good person who works hard, has values and derives my self esteem from my personal accomplishments and helping others. I also derive it from being peaceful and feeling uncomfortable with “fighting.” Everyone should feel uncomfortable with fighting, arguing and ill intent. It is entirely not enjoyable nor normal  to seek  revenge, make people feel bad, and to assert yourself in this world with a force that creates bad energy for yourself or others. It’s down right weird to fight or to feel that you must create dischord to “get what you need or want”. I find the less you expend, the more comes your way, in terms of universal fulfillment. Because you see, the more you deem “not important” the more it becomes NOT IMPORTANT. While I know this is a simple statement, but if you really read it slowly, you will see how powerful it is. My motto, from Karen Salmonsohn, from www.notsalmon.comis LET GO OR BE DRAGGED. Isn’t it truly simple? Ok, I digress, don’t hate me for believing in people, believing in their ability to love themselves, work and be productive. Don’t hate me for believing people should work for what they have because it creates value. Everything I work for, I value.

I also believe in assisting others within reason whereby it doesn’t interfere with personal goals. I have, for a long time, over-helped people to the point of putting myself on hold, but that no longer happens. I find myself becoming a bit uncomfortable sometimes when I must step back in order to listen to my needs and respond, but I do it anyway, and it’s been great for me.  I love to be of service, but it can’t be to the detriment of my progression, happiness, and impede my schedule, health, comfort, and goals that I must achieve to survive and succeed.

Of course, I digressed because I am always thinking about a billion plus things… but back to ROLE MODELS! As I sit here attempting to come up with some seriously cool, smart women that I can look up to, sadly, I cannot. I don’t know enough about any of the entrepreneurs, inventors and writers personally to tout them, PLUS- I CANNOT THINK OF ONE AT THE TOP OF MY HEAD because they ARE NEVER FEATURED IN ANYWHERE TOTALLY MAINSTREAM! If no one else finds this COMPLETELY ALARMING- well then, America should just throw in the towel, which they are doing already because everyone is throwing their arms up and saying ” I GIVE UP.” I give up on my America and just want to blame others for my misfortune.

I am determined to include some WOMEN ROLE MODELS IN AN UPCOMING POST, unfortunately, it’s going to take some deep digging, and research- isn’t that a SHAME? Shouldn’t I be able to raggle off like 5 or 6 that are regularly featured in mainstream media!? I need to identify women who are cool, aren’t afraid to be “them selves”, and don’t dress solely for MEN’s admiration. GOD! How hard will that be to find? I can think of one I admire, Gwen Stefani- cause she has her own style- has a cute husband, is an artist, entrepreneur, doesn’t get into trouble with drugs, problems, etc.

I feel very strongly that young girls and women need better role models, doesn’t mean that they can’t be glamourous, like Gwen Stefani, just means that their focus needs to be on self development, not external development such as tit jobs, makeup, slutty clothing, etc.

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH– help! what is an intellectual like me to do?

Last night I was SO JEALOUS of a guy who was able to pee outside so discreetly. I said, “I want to invent a device whereby women can pee outdoors without having to pull down their pants, etc. So today, I did some research online and found something called GO GIRL! I am so psyched! I hike and never have a place to pee, etc. Plus peeing can totally ruin a good event- waiting on lines, etc. Now you can go outside discreetly without having to make a huge ordeal out of it!

This is exactly how I envisioned it. Seems that all my imagination inventions have already been made!

I am defintely buying one of these asap! They would make great xmas presents! www.go-girl.com

Simply put, GoGirl is the way to stand up to crowded, disgusting, distant or non-existent bathrooms.  It’s a female urination device (sometimes called a FUD) that allows you to urinate while standing up. It’s neat. It’s discreet. It’s hygienic.

GoGirl is easy to use.  put GoGirl against your body, forming a seal.  Aim and, well, pee.  Pretty simple, huh?

GoGirl fits easily in your purse, pocket, or glove compartment. It’s a must for travel and sports. And it’s great for everyday––no more crouching over or trying to cover up an unsanitary public toilet.

While the concept may be new to you, European women have used female urination devices for years.  GoGirl’s not the first device of its kind. But try it. And we think you’ll agree it’s easily the best.

Only GoGirl is made with flexible, medical grade silicone.  Dispose of it after use. Or clean and reuse as you like.  (Urine is sterile, but the product can come into contact with contaminates during use, so take precautions when cleaning.) Our patented splash guard eliminates messing and spilling. Once you practice a time or two, using a GoGirl is going to feel like second nature. You won’t be like a man. You’ll just pee like one. HA HA HA HA HA HA. I love this phrase!

I saw my uncle from Oklahoma recently and he showed me this cool app on his Iphone where he could monitor his home from afar on his phone in real time! He pulled up a pic  and said, guess what this is? I said, “I dunno.” He said, “My living room!” I said, “No way!”

I am definitely going to look into this device. It is rather affordable in that there is no monthly fee for the basic membership and you only need to buy the camera set up. The app is free.

The minimum camera set up is around $200 and change, you can add cameras for $79 each! It is a great way to monitor your home!

Check it out!

http://www.vuezone.com/